Victoria Twead: We Love Memoirs
Good morning, WLM! Please welcome Lucinda E Clarke, author of Walking over Eggshells, into the Sunday Spotlight today. Have a good day, Lucinda!
Lucinda E Clarke: Hi Everyone. You will have to be patient with me! woke this morning to no Internet – slight heart attack!
Julie Haigh: Good morning Lucinda E Clarke and I hope you have a great day in the spotlight and that your internet behaves! I have your book and am looking forward to reading it, some people in our group have described it as stunning so that’s praise indeed. How long did it take you to write your memoir? Is it your first book? Have you written any before and would you be writing a follow up memoir or perhaps trying your hand at fiction?
Jacky Donovan: How long have you lived in Spain? And what made you choose Alicante? I used to have a villa in Torrevieja but sold it a few years ago.
Lucinda E Clarke: Hi Julie, thanks for the good wishes. I wrote most of the book while I was still in South Africa, but had no intentions of publishing, it was just for me. Difficult to say how long, as I wrote bits in between contracts, I was working of course. But I do write fast/ It’s my first book if you don’t count the two I was commissioned by publishers way back in the 80’s, they were both educational books. I am working on a second memoir, this time covering all the filming in South Africa.
— Jackie, I have been living in Spain since 2008. We bought a bolt hole in Torrevieja in 2001, and then moved over, but our house in SA did not sell, so we had a year to look around and moved another 100kms further north.
Lucinda E Clarke: Julie my next book I keep meaning to publish any day now, is pure fiction.
Jacky Donovan: What’s your next book about? Please give us a clue
Lucinda E Clarke: Jacky are you in Spain as well? My next book is called “Amie,” and it tells the story of an everyday girl whose husband is contracted to work in Africa – and she gets herself into all kinds of trouble. Civil war breaks for instance!
Jacky Rolls: Good morning Lucinda – just relax, you’ll be fine I haven’t read ‘Eggshells’ yet (it’s on my list), but I see that you lived in Africa for a time. Which part of Africa was it? I lived in Kenya (I still pronounce it Keenya!) for about 5 years as a child in the ’50’s and still have some great memories of that time
Jacky Donovan: I am in Gran Canaria. I chose it rather than mainland Spain as the winter weather is better. I look forward to finding out what sort of trouble Amie got into
Julie Haigh: Great news about your second book and about your follow up memoir, I will look forward to those! And what a small world-my sister lives in Torreveija which both you and Jacky Donovan mentioned.
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes, poor Amie, she really doesn’t have a clue! I wanted to show many of the misconceptions people have about Africa in a story form. We never thought about Gran Canaria, but after living on an island [UK] we still enjoy being able to drive to other countries. One great thing about being back in Europe is the history and the old world charm. We have so much to explore yet.
–Well when we were in SA we took two timeshare swaps, one in La Manga the other in Estapona. But I then discovered that I had cousins who lived in Torrevieja and we went up to see them and stayed with them and that is why we bought there. In two weeks we had found a flat, opened a bank account etc etc. These were the same cousins I went to live with in Cardiff for that short time in my teens. so yes the world is very small.
Helen Lehmann: When do you do your writing Lucinda? Are you a disciplined so much of a day person or does it get dome in fits and jerks?
Lucinda E Clarke: Big joke! Whenever I can!! We only have a small place here, so I don’t have a study any more. Usually when the OH pops out to buy a loaf of bread! honestly it’s as desperate as that! From Sept to May i have all day Wednesdays as he goes hiking up the mountainside with a group and then I can mange say 6,000 words, maybe more. But he still forgets and breaks my train of thought as he chatters away! I would be more disciplined, when I was working, I had to meet deadlines, fopr broadcast and events, so I worked all hours. Some days it is easier than others.
–sue I really like your avatar!
Sue Clamp: Do you mean me? I was about 6 years old in that photo! Tell us more about the broadcasting, Lucinda.
Lucinda E Clarke: ! should have thought of using a pic from way back, but I don’t have many.
Sue Clamp: I haven’t changed much.
Lucinda E Clarke: wow! You are so lucky! The camera hates me and that is one reason my crew know never, ever to show me, even if we were doing vox pops.
Valerie Robson: I live in Zimbabwe Lucinda, so am interested in anything you have to tell about SA… must look and see more about your book… xxx
Lucinda E Clarke: Where in Zim? On a farm?
–Ah, rest of your message just popped up. Yes, I would really value your honest comments if you get to read Amie. I was in Africa for 30+ years and what I write is my take on it. Although a lot of Walking over Eggshells is obviously set in SA, also Libya, Botswana, Kenya and Swaziland. I am still homesick! Can’t watch a wildlife programme without snivelling!
Valerie Robson: Lucinda, I am in Harare, a town girl, been here since I was 2 in late ’48… so am a real baby-boomer… xxx
Maria McMahon: Hi Lucinda, I’ll add it to my list of must-reads but it might be a while before I get to it! I love these kind of books about living in other countries, being a perennial expat myself!
Lucinda E Clarke: Valerie, is the media hyping things up right now, as they usually do re other places?
–Maria where have you been? I’m still itching to travel more, but nowadays I am too old for companies to pay me to to do
Maria McMahon: Ok, just checked it on Amazon and it looked too good to resist and the Kindle price is a steal! I’ll make it my special treat to start reading it very soon!
Lucinda E Clarke: Thank you! I hope you enjoy it. I tried to make a rather dark side as humourous as possible as my main genre is humour.
Maria McMahon: Oh I’ve lived in Germany when I was in my early 20s, then London, then in my late 30s headed off to Hong Kong, which led me to the UAE, where I’ve been pretty much ever since, except for 2 years in Azerbaijan with a contract that did pay me rather a lot! Back in Dubai now and setting up my own business – all about self-help, personal development, law of attraction and living the life of your dreams! I’m working on my e-book now which I do intend to publish as soon as I can. It’s not exactly a memoir but I’m sure that this great community will support me!
Valerie Robson Life is not easy here, and our biggest problem is that businesses and jobs are collapsing like dominoes… apart from that we all get on fine as we are suffering the same problems! I do not ‘do’ politics… xxx
Lucinda E Clarke: I’m sure they will, they have been fantastic and so friendly. [would have put a smiley in there, but it seems to have disappeared.]
Victoria Twead: Hi Lucinda, I haven’t read Walking over Eggshells yet, but intend to. How would you describe the book in one sentence? (Difficult, I know!)
Valerie Robson: Hey Lucinda, this is meant to be about you not us… xxx
Lucinda E Clarke: No Valerie Robson, but as I got older I decided that I do ‘do’ safety.
Michelle Ingel: I really like Eggsshells, it strikes the emotional cord. It is taking me a while to read because i find it so disturbing that I need to read something else at the same time and I will definitely read Amie when it comes out. How would you feel about moving again to another country? Would you consider it or are you finally settled?
Lucinda E Clarke: Sorry! Put it down to my curious nature!! I’m not too brilliant talking about me, as I was so conditioned into not boasting!!
–One sentence Victoria. WOE – Brought up by a mother with a personality disorder, Lucinda had little defense against the Walter Mitty character she married who took her to Africa and into some difficult and sometimes dangerous situations. Rather a long sentence no?
Frankie Knight: I’m not sure what your previous job entailed. Please can you elucidate for me? Sorry if you’ve already done this elsewhere.
Lucinda E Clarke: Frankie I began as a teacher, and apart from the animal breeding and the riding school, I worked as an announcer on radio in Libya. I then failed an audition at the SABC [BBC for South Africa] but began writing for radio. So busy I gave up teaching, then started writing for TV, and then that morphed into production work and then I ran my own small video production company making programmes for TV, corporates, government, tourist board etc etc. I wrote the scripts, planned the shoots, directed, interviewed, wrote the brochures, chose the shots I wanted to use, sat in edit, oversaw all the production work etc. I did everything except press the buttons, none of the technical stuff. And I also had lots of other writing work on the side too – adverts, mayoral speeches, company reports, educational stuff. I am proud that my educational materials, brochures, videos, posters etc won the UN Water of the Decade Award for Durban City Council. Went up to Zaragossa for the ceremony. And that was a worldwide thing. I really should shut up no:)
–Well while I am in the SS why not mention that I wrote the script and helped edit a programme for National Geographic – that was always my dream as I consider them the top of the tree. It is about a Honey Badger.
Kate Pill: With that sentence Lucinda E Clarke you’ve ‘hooked’ me. Looking forward to reading “Eggshells … ” enjoying the fred too.
Victoria Twead: Wow, Lucinda, what an amazing lady you are! And that sentence worked for me perfectly.
Lucinda E Clarke: Well Victoria I cheated a bit! I was listing WOE on a site last night and so I still had it in my head – though I’m not sure why. most things leak out pretty quickly these days
–You know talking about yourself in a positive way is very difficult for a child brought up by a narcissistic parent, as they put you down all the time. So you almost have to re-invent yourself to get on an even keel. This did not happen to me until I was in my 40’s and I had left my I now think, narcissistic husband.
–I saw your comment Victoria and I am definitely going to read Ann Patras’ book, I thought I had already downloaded it but now I can’t find it on the Kindle. I’ve got so many books to read, most recommended on this site and to think I used to read murder mysteries!
Frankie Knight: OMG, Lucinda! So not really very busy then!!!! LOL! What did you manage to fit into your ‘downtime’, if there was any?
–Isn’t it about time someone turned up with sustenance this morning????
Lucinda E Clarke: I don’t think I had any down time, now I come to think of it. I became a workaholic. When i was writing, the kids knew to only disturb me if the house was on fire, someone was drowning in the poll or anyone had been bitten by a snake! i just kept going and going and going. I’ve just gone to look for an energy bar or similar and we are right out The OH is out test driving his possible new car.
Frankie Knight: So how did you cope with being a workaholic? All work and no play makes for problems with most folk.
Cherry Gregory: Good morning, Lucinda. Sorry I’m a bit late but I’ve been engrossed in your book, Walking Upon Eggshells. You write very well and with great insight. I am loving it. I can identify with the bad response when you declared you wanted to be a writer…I had similar response when I was a child! Told I had to think of a “proper job”. Great that you’re a writer now though (and a good one!) How do you find writing fiction differs from writing a memoir?
Lucinda E Clarke: Frankie, living in SA I had a full time maid, so any down time I had was spent with the kids. I’d start writing at 5am, then stop to see them off on the bus and then we had a bit of quality time between 5 and 7. I also tried to involve them getting them a few presenting bits and filming at our house. I also managed to get them into a show in the studios in Johannesburg. But neither followed me into the media, they saw it was not romantic, long hours, frustrations and patience with dealing with those famous people who fans rave about, but are often a total pain :((
–Hi Cherry, some of the comments are coming through on the pop ups and not on the main part, so I look as if I am talking to myself ha ha. but I do a lot of that anyway.
–Cherry, I battled with writing a novel at first. The first person who read it said “But you’ve not described anything!” And I hadn’t! I was so used to writing dialogue and letting the pictures on film show the surroundings, I had to go back and put in all that stuff – even with the memoir. Thank you for your kinds words and I’m glad you are enjoying the book. These days kids have so many more options to choose from, though to us writing as a job means for newspapers and they don’t have too good a name right now. I actually hate being called a journalist. And to be honest, without the filming side I’m not sure to what extent I would have been able to support the family, the SABC obviously had other writers too!
Janet Hughes: Tapas time me thinks…. *brushes self down after being trampled on in the stampede* “Bloomin’ ‘eck they were hungry!”
Ann Patras-Author: Hi Lucinda, a quick few words before the sausage sandwiches arrive (they eat breakfast late here!). I’m really looking forward to reading your book, as it sounds like you had a totally different life to me. You mentioned Joburg and SABC so I am assuming you lived in Joburg, may I ask – whereabouts? I know exactly what you mean about watching wildlife docs. In ’86 we left Zambia to go back to live in UK and whenever I watched a doc and heard the familiar birdlife in the background I would actually get a pain in my chest – can literally say my heart ached to be back in Africa. Fortunately we did go back. Second question, what prompted you to leave?
Lucinda E Clarke: Ann, I am going to pop back on the other page to answer your questions.
Janet Hughes: Sausage sandwiches!
Susan Jackson: Sorry about trampling you Janet Hughes, we were starving while you were gone!!
Frankie Knight: And about time too, Janet!
Lucinda E Clarke: Ann what an idiot I am! we are on the same page hmmm! I lived in Jhb and Pretoria area – the reef – for 9 years before I moved down to Durban to live on a boat. While in Francistown I had more of the bush experience I guess. You went back to where? Are you still there now? We left because medical aid was shooting through the roof, we did not feel safe as we got older, the Rand £ exchange rate was looking decidedly dodgy [and we are careful now, as the OH has an SA pension and who knows what that will be worth in a few years] and we also wanted to see more of Europe, the old world. I was so lucky to travel deep rural in SA, and townships, so I saw just about all of the country, meeting people when we filmed. OK, here’s a plug for Book 3 – that’s the working title, it will be about our filming adventures and we had some amazing experiences. I used to say to the crew, “Look after me guys, I’m the only white for miles in any direction!” They were always brilliant, even in tricky situations.
Frankie Knight: I shall be off line now until the race at Silverstone is over…. Will be back later though!
Janet Hughes: Hi Lucinda, just finished reading your book. Reading about your relationship with your Mum, dragged me back in time – by the throat. My grandmother lived with us – when she was sober, she was tolerable, but drunk – horrendous, I used to hide from her… But then at times she was wonderful. It was like living with a ticking bomb. Even so, I genuinely enjoyed reading your book.
–I suppose you’ll be wanting something to drink now?
Susan Jackson: I read your comment about growing up with a parent and husband that put you down all the time–I can so relate to that–I was about 45 when I woke up and took control of my life. You are really fascinating–Africa always scared me, probably from the shows when I was a kid–so much killing–even now nothing but stories of killing–obviously you didn’t encounter that? I can’t wait to read your book!!
–Diet Pepsi or ice tea please Janet Hughes
Lucinda E Clarke: Thank you Janet very much. I know it sounds slushy, but one of my aims was to bring dysfunctional family relationships out into the open. It’s not just the slum, poverty type of abuse everyone is familiar with, but the horrors that go on behind closed doors in middle class families. The open University in UK psychology course does not even cover PD’s at all and apparently they are inherited. I cannot describe the feelings when I learned that my mother was in fact ill, and that was so mind blowing. It took all the guilt away and set me free.
Ann Patras-Author: Lucinda, we went back to live in Zambia but alas promises on the work front were not fulfilled so we moved down to SA in 1989. A good time anyway, as our kids were coming up for senior school. Took a short-term lease in Fourways and we decided it was a good area to be, so bought our own house and stayed there for 22 years. Must go for now. Enjoy your Sunday Spotlight Lucinda, I’ll catch up on a read later.
Lucinda E Clarke: Hi Susan, I had a couple of narrow squeaks, got caught up in a riot gas attack in Nairobi. and then I was live on air with a bayonet pricking into my neck., that was pretty uncomfortable, and a local witchdoctor killed off two of my horses in Botswana. Perhaps the funniest was out on shoot one day and the guns started to go off, so I threw myself flat on the ground, only to notice the rest of the crew were in stitches. I had forgotten it was Divali and only fire crackers!! But Amie, next book, is right in the thick of it, poor girl, what I put her through, shame.
Janet Hughes: Ice teas, for Susan Jackson Roberto will help you to choose which one you want.
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes, would love to pm you and find out more.
Ann Patras-Author: I’ll pm you my other email address.
Lucinda E Clarke: yes, please do. Just one thing are you still living in SA?
Susan Jackson: Ah, Roberto, what I don’t drink I will pour over his head to watch it roll down his chest. Oh sorry, wrong thread!
Lucinda E Clarke: that sounds really intriguing!!!
Ann Patras-Author: No, we now live in Spain – inland Costa de Sol and loving it. Left for almost identical reasons to you. Reminds me very much of Zambia sometimes – slow.
Lucinda E Clarke: Not unlike KZN here in Valencian province. Chat another time, look forward to it.
Janet Hughes: Meet Roberto – He’s the WLM gardener handyman, who helps to serve refreshments at WLM get togethers. For some reason, he’s very popular with the ladies. I’ll have to run a special sometime, then you can meet all characters…
Lucinda E Clarke: Does he like the more mature females?
Janet Hughes: Generally – yes. I think that he likes them – how can we say – experienced in the ways of the world.
Lucinda E Clarke: We just have to make sure there are no Madonna look a likes within 50 kms in any direction!
Janet Hughes: No, he prefers the lived in look (plus I think that he wants to be the centre of attention) – you’ll be fine.
Rowena Cardwell: Hi Lucinda E Clarke, welcome to the spotlight. Hope you have a fantastic time.
Susan Jackson: Sorry Lucinda E Clarke, we get carried away sometimes
Lucinda E Clarke: Thanks Rowena. No problem Susan, I was just wondering if I would get away with posting Roberto onto the back of the wardrobe door, but I fear not.
–Just had a thought, Roberto’s lived in look would certainly cut down on the laundry bills
Laurie A. Grundner: Hi Lucinda, While I’m thinking of something to ask you who do you think will win at Wimbledon today, Djokovic or Federer?
Lucinda E Clarke: Are they playing tennis?
Laurie A. Grundner: The finals are in a little over an hour.
Lucinda E Clarke: I must confess not watched any tennis this year. But I will root for Federer as I like Switzerland, I think he comes from there?
Jacky Donovan: Sounds as if you’ve had an interesting life Lucinda E Clarke. And as if several of us kind of woke up in our 40s and discovered that life really did begin then
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes Jacky, I think that is when it hits you. Then it becomes a rush to do what you want to do before you get too old and past it.
Laurie A. Grundner: What an exciting life you’ve had. I was always someone ruled by fear but due to choices I made I was forced to get help. Looking back all the bad choices I made has helped me grow. I didn’t start feeling comfortable in my skin until almost 40 or so. That’s when I woke up and knew this life was mine. The old voices of putdowns can still be heard at times but not everyday, all day. Federer is Swiss.
Michelle Ingel: Would you consider moving again to another country or do you feel settled now? Meaning, did your childhood environment make you restless, -i.e. weary of quiet periods . If you did not answer before on purpose, please don’t feel you have too, I just thought you may have missed my question and I am interested by the answer.
Lucinda E Clarke: I got something right! and yes I still suffer from the put downs. I notice that I am much more sensitive than the average person, who brush off people being awful and stuff like that. I can take my work / books being criticised, that’s OK, but on a personal front, that’s another matter. Maybe we did not have that solid grounding that people in loving family relationships had.
–No problem Michelle, I tend to be far too open according to the OH!! Yes, I would move again, though I do adore Spain. I do find it cold in winter, and if there was the chance say for Malaysia or OZ then why not? I get terribly itchy feet, it’s a real curse. I think people who are settled and love where they have been born etc are maybe the lucky ones, they are content. Yes, my bad childhood did make me restless, I wanted to escape, but for a long time I could see no way as an only child of a widowed mother. On the other hand, my folks were colonials from way back, so maybe it is somewhere in the genes? If I won the lottery tomorrow I would be off traveling and maybe keeping an eye open for a warmer place to live. But of course as you are older, you are not looking for schools etc, but need to take the tape measure to work out how close you are to the hospital and clinic !!
Jennifer Herrick-Weatherstone: Can I say Lucinda E Clarke I thoroughly enjoyed your book, hence the review! I think a lesser person would surely have buckled under the constant criticism you were subjected to. Do you see yourself as a strong person or is it perhaps that kind of upbringing gave you strength?
–I see above you address the sensitivity issue but I was thinking more of strength of character
–Oh by the way for those who have not yet read the book, it is not at all as serious as our questions are making it sound. It is a rollicking good read!
Susan Jackson: After spending 20 years in the US Air Force and then Working for the US Govt we lived in Europe for many years–moved back to the US due to my husband’s health issues–we both have itchy feet and every time a job comes up inEurope we are both ready to go until common sense prevails–oh well, I still go yearly on vacation.
–Going to the gym now–catch up with you guys later!
Lucinda E Clarke: Honestly Jennifer people say wow, look at you, so strong, so brave and all that, but I just had to survive at the time and anyone would do it, we have no idea how much strength we all have and if it means finding a way to feed your children and maintain your standards of living. In a country like Africa – with limited free medical and seeing people living in shacks, there is an extra impetus to survive. Thanks for the comments about the book, I couldn’t bear to make it all doom and gloom and I’m sure some people are put off by dysfunctional stuff, but there is always a lighter side to it. I’m not special in any way, but I had nowhere else to go ie no family to run back to.
Janet Hughes: Look smart, the boss is working her way down the thread!
Jennifer Herrick-Weatherstone: Well she can’t put Lucinda E Clarke on the naughty step cos it is her day to answer loads of questions! If I was Lucinda I would say a naughty word just for the hell of it. Something like bum or willy for instance
Susan Jackson: No family I wanted to run back to, thank you very much
Victoria Twead: I got stalled at Roberto, haha!
Lucinda E Clarke: I don’t know what it is that makes some people want to travel while others would just hate it. One of my greatest wishes is to go and see where my family lived in China, and I am going to write and write and write until I have enough money to go there. Of course, they will have to pile me into the plane with the walker and the oxygen mask, but we do need goals in life don’t we ?
–Now going to the gym takes real strength of character susan. My daily exercise is to walk from the front door to the car and back again.
— i saw that!!! Actually I did get into big trouble the other day on another site for not following the rules of etiquette, and got told off. I groveled appropriately, but I am so pleased that you have one simple rule on no promotion so everyone knows exactly what they can and can’t do. I’m still puzzled by their rules, which I took to be ambiguous.
Janet Givens: Good mornin’ ladies. I’ve been enjoying listening in on your conversation. Must toddle off for breakfast, but I plan to come back and participate. Lots of questions buzzing around. Ta Ta
Lucinda E Clarke: i guess you are the other side of the pond?
Nancy McBride: (Janet is not too far from me, in VT. I’m in MA.) When i was visiting SA, I kept blinking away the feeling that I was watching a National Geographic special on TV. It was so physically impressive… the smells, the colors…. I will start the WOE book, today! My husband (ex) insidiously became bi-polar and the havoc the ensued was palpable. I had no idea what was happening and tried to survive within it, so relieved when he blew out and left us… no one in those days knew it was mental illness… so traumatic for all concerned. Then there’s the getting up and putting your feet on the floor… “getting” it, and putting it where it needs to be… good on you for evolving out of your situation, and with a sense of humor! I’d be well dead without mine!
Lucinda E Clarke: Have you written about it Nancy?
Nancy McBride: I’ve done a lot of the writing, none of the publishing. So many survival stories, so little time.
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes, it’s the time factor that is the killer. My OH is patient, but not that patient and I often feel so guilty here in a world of my own, neglecting him. And then I want to get ratty when I have to stop writing because we have to go out etc. It’s not easy.
Nancy McBride: Yoo-hoo, Roberto, dear, I’d love some breakfast…
Janet Hughes: Yes Nancy, just what is it that you desire ?
Nancy McBride: I did mention Roberto, did I not?… Oh, wait! Breakfast! Um..how about a Dutch pancake with fresh raspberries…and toasted almond slivers, and the powdered sugar with a squeeze (lemon juice, not Roberto, you silly crones…)
–Lucinda, I realized, recently, on yet another writing jag, that it all spillith, and I move on, but alas, the context, or location, or descriptions are only assumed by me, who knows them so intimately, and I, too, will need to clarify, tighten, paint with words to fill in the reader’s blanks to some degree. I need to look at that, too, but it took eons for me to begin to write as it was. I know readers bring their half of the story to ours, in a sense…I hesitated because I am a teller of stories, not so much a writer. I don’t want them to lose their spontaneity, weighted down by the conventions of the written word vs the telling words.. I have relaxed to that a bit, but… also pulling all the snippets together… advice?
Lucinda E Clarke: I used to tell the students at Technikon, ‘who can either write, or you can’t, I’m here to show you how to put it on paper in an acceptable form. Nancy I think the most important thing is flow. I wouldn’t panic about not having enough description if it means going back and trying to squash it in somewhere. That was a big criticism of WOE from one person, I didn’t paint a big enough picture. Some people like to use their imaginations and some like it all out on the page in front of them. you must have experienced a shock when you see a film and you’ve read the book, that characters look all wrong, and her house wasn’t like that at all! Writing a book is the same as telling a story, only you are putting the words on paper. And heck, look at the classics with their pages and pages describing one dandelion – we don’t have time to read in that detail any more! Go for it! trust your instincts.
–Have you tried telling the story in words and taping it and then transcribing to paper?
Janet Hughes: Honest the almond slivers are there, Roberto will squeeze the lemon juice all over wherever you want
Lucinda E Clarke: How did you do that Janet?
Nancy McBride: Once I let them out they just keep coming… thanks for encouraging me to just keep letting them fly as is… The organizing? Attempted, but I guess I’ll just keep writing until that happens. I do know not to do shoulds. It’ll happen. I’m the first one to say Guts ROCK! Right? Thanks so much for the encouragement. I yam what I yam… And that’s what folks should have—authenticity! Right?
Nancy McBride: Janet, YOU amaze me. I. Want. Lemon Juice, NOW!
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes I agree. Nancy. A lot of people would not agree that I can write. I’ll never win a Nobel Prize for literature, I just do it. My Grandfather had a newspaper and he was a stringer for the Times and the Daily Telegraph in London, and he told me “Write as you speak.” I’ve never forgotten that. I also read a long, very, very, long blog the other day and if I followed the advice there I would still be on my fist sentence. She writes and then re-writes and then starts again and the… just let it out on paper. Writing is like any art, very subjective, some will love it, others hate it. Do it for you and enjoy doing it. And let us all know when you publish!
Terry Bryan: Good Fred, Lucinda…gotta go check in on Wimbledon…strawberries and cream, please Roberto…and coffee…I know, I know.
Lucinda E Clarke: This is something I can share while I can mention my book. After the book signing a few weeks ago, a friend asked someone if they had bought mine – Walking over Eggshells. “Good heavens no,” she replied. “I’ve already read Walking over Lemons, and I don’t need to read another book about Brits living in Spain!” This will make more sense to English speakers as I think Walking over Lemons was probably the first book in that genre and everyone has read it!
— Thanks Terry. OH is reading some spy novel and so the telly is off here.
Nancy McBride: Thanks for the reminders, Lucinda. I will. I WILL. This WLM group will make sure of it, I know! Seriously! I am finally writing, and for me.
Terry Bryan: Here, Nancy McBride…hush. Eat.
Elaine Beckham: I like your comments Lucinda – especially this last one to Nancy McBride. When was your grandfather working for the Daily Telegraph in London? I was an editorial assistant for a while for the Telegraph’s Sunday Magazine.
Nancy McBride: Does your OH realize how amazing you are? Hugs. You are doing a wonderful job.
–Terry. You. Are. A. Goodie. I am currently dripping with lemon juice…Gottta go now… (Oh, Roberto… a little more over here… on the Dutch pancake, of course…you silly girls…)
Lucinda E Clarke: I’ve gone all shy !! I love him to bits, we get along pretty well. But you gotta be careful, guys like to be in the driving seat, so I do play stuff down a lot. Guys tend to have very fragile egos.
Nancy McBride: Better to be aware of these things. Smart.
Lucinda E Clarke: i learned the hard way the first time round! My ex went on a film course and was called Mrs Lucinda, or Lucinda’s husband the whole time, he was not amused!
Nancy McBride: Delicate flowers, that they are….
Lucinda E Clarke: It sounds ridiculous but until I had casual counseling – a group that met to chat, I had no idea that men had feelings. when you live with a Walter Mitty character, they are as high as kites most of the time.
Janet Hughes: Terry, here you are – Roberto’s bringing the coffee in a minute
Lucinda E Clarke: Who’s the full time waiter Janet, you or Roberto?
Janet Hughes: Sorry If he’s a bit sticky Terry, Nancy’s been squirting him with lemon juice.
Lucinda E Clarke: Advertisers never miss a trick do they?
Janet Hughes: Well Lucinda, I’m the gofer, Roberto and Brad usually do the waiting.
Julie Haigh: Ginger Beer on ice and lemon cheesecake for me please Janet Hughes
Lucinda E Clarke: He’s lost a few years no?
Bambi Flanner: I’ll take Roberto please. I’m afraid Angelina and all those kids will follow Brad wherever he goes, and I don’t need any more kids around me at this point in time. And they have a gaggle.
Nancy McBride: Can’t type, now, busy…
–Ow, lemon juice in my EYE! (Poor Roberto, needs his specs, but he says Janet won’t let him wear them. Ruins his image ( more than one way)!
Lucinda E Clarke: is he too poor for contacts?
Ann Patras: The nattering between you two Nancy McBride and Lucinda E Clarke has just made me think. I really must post a photo of my little angels in my blog before the millions who have not yet read the book will know what they really look like – if they want to – instead of having to rely on imagination. I’m sure my darlings will really love that, especially the one I have in mind.
Lucinda E Clarke: I was handicapped in my case Ann, i changed all names to protect the guilty and the innocent!
Ann Patras: Lucinda I asked them all if they wanted pseudonyms and they all declined. Idiots!
Lucinda E Clarke: Lucky you, I am envious. My daughters are not at all impressed with my book. Though I honestly I never expected them to know about it. I had shown them an early draft and they were not really interested. I don’t think they ever thought I would publish it.
Terry Bryan: Will this do, Julie…made near my hometown.
Elaine Beckham: Its been really fun reading all the exchanges here! I’m just off to Amazon USA to buy your book Lucinda – sounds like it will be a good read for me, especially as I’ll have 21 days on the High Seas at the end of Sept. Thanks for being in the Hot Seat.
Lucinda E Clarke: Nice to meet you Elaine. Have a great time at sea. where you going?
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, good morning from Uruguay! Wonderful to have you as the WLM Sunday Star. Welcome! Hope you’re enjoying the Spotlight! Just starting reading through the thread. I’ll get caught up and then ask a question or two.
Lucinda E Clarke: OK, I’ll still be here.
–Oh Elaine, I forgot to say thank you so much for buying my book. It is a really humbling feeling.
Elaine Beckham: Lucinda, I am in the process of selling my home (should be done by 16th July) and also hopefully all my furniture and what-nots in my house will have been sold by this afternoon. I am currently staying in a friend’s house until I hop on a cruise ship to Australia at the end of Sept. Planning on staying in Australia for 3 months, then over to NZ for a couple of months and then somehow wend my way over to the UK with stops in Malta and Tenerife. I’ll be “homeless” for about a year. Don’t know where I’ll be returning to, but I do have some items in a 10 x 10 storage unit here in California.
Lucinda E Clarke: Wow, I am really envious. Would love to do something like that, and keep suggesting to the OH we take off for a few months. I think he’s coming round, slowly. I quite fancy house sitting in places so we can really get to know a new place.
Elaine Beckham: House sitting is a good idea and there are websites for those. Also house exchanges can be a good idea – just in case OH would be up to that
Lucinda E Clarke: He’s quite keen on the sitting bit, but we have such a tiny place here, it’ was really built as a holiday bungalow. When you move from Africa, the exchange rate into hard currency really knocks you sideways.
Elaine Beckham: Thats what I understand Lucinda. Did you find it hard to resettle where you now are? I’m really not good at budgets, so it will be interesting to see how that works out for me ! Well, got to get ready for church – providing the flowers today – Really have enjoyed reading this fred and hope you’ve enjoyed being in the hot seat.
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes thank you, it’s fun.
Nancy McBride: Ann Patras, please do post the pics of the kids, then and now! The visualization does help! Although I pictured them and your situation in your book, nicely in my mind’s eye…
Susan Jackson: I just started the gym again last month–better than physical therapy–working out, walking, water aerobics not bad but STEP –that was something I love when I way younger but it was a BITCH today–made 1/2 hr and then when they started going crazy I couldn’t do anymore–will keep doing the 1/2 hr until I can do more!!
Lucinda E Clarke: I will only try and imagine all that and now I have had my exercise for today. Thanks for all your effort Susan. how many steps did I climb?
Susan Jackson: Just keep kayaking Nancy McBride
Janet Givens: You’re all having so much fun. And this Roberto/Brad hologram really woke me up. Thanks for that! I’m still breathing a little heavy. Lucinda, I want to add here that your book is going on my “Must Read” list today. I’m intrigued that you wrote a “survivor” memoir with humor. I’ve long held there is NOTHING that, given a little time, we can’t laugh about. Time seems to be the critical piece. So, congratulations. Can’t wait to read your story. Unfortunately, I can’t stay on long. But good to know you’re all laughing together out t here. And yes, Lucinda, I’m across your pond. Vermont, USA (We call it the Northeast Kingdom; indeed it is).
Lucinda E Clarke: Thanks for the info Janet. Often people who live in America say I’m in VT or NI or UP or something and while my geography of the US is not too bad, I’m never sure what state they are in. And I hope you do like my book and I hope it makes you laugh too.
Ann Patras: As it happens Nancy McBride since I posted that comment the third remaining element – Vicki – arrived at my son Brad Patras’s flat, so we are now all here in force. Except their dad Ziggy, I left him in Spain looking after the dogs. So will really be able to post a before and after pic. Just give me an hour or so. Oh, sorry if you don’t know. Leon James Patras, flew in especially from SA (as me from Spain) ‘cos Brad got tickets to see the Monty Python concert in London last night. Vicki, poor girl, had to work but has now joined us. PARTY TIME, YEAH!!!!!!!!
Frankie Knight: Right, race over, good result, so now caught up with happenings in my absence. I see I’ve missed Roberto and there was no brandy doled out tsk, tsk! Interesting seeing talk about rewriting stuff you’ve written. That’s what puts me off totally. If I’ve written something I couldn’t bear to go back and faff around with it – I’d find that utterly boring and if I’m bored with something I truly cannot be ar–ed with it!
Susan Jackson: Yes Ann Patras, do that!! I thought you posted something the other day
Lucinda E Clarke: Me too. This blog was enough to put Enid Blyton off!
Frankie Knight: Does a difficult childhood push you to write or would you have written anyway?
Lucinda E Clarke: Difficult to say. As my grandfather obviously wrote for a living that might have been a factor, but like someone else said on another post, when you live in a fantasy world cos you don’t like the one you’ve been dumped in, it sort of sets you off. Ha, I had trouble knowing if I was in my real or fantasy world half the time.
Ann Patras: Sorry Susan Jackson preps for abandoning Ziggy for 12 days overtook all other work. Off for a break now. And apologies to Lucinda E Clarke for butting in on her spotlight.
Susan Jackson: Check with Tony James Slater, he house sits and is from UK/OZ
Lucinda E Clarke: Not at all! Nice to meet you and we will chat again.
Janet Givens: House Sitting ! Yes, yes, yes. I have a log cabin on the water in Chincoteague, Virginia that sits empty three months of the year (Jan – March). DM me if interested.
–Sorry, bout that. Did I interrupt? Now, really must get back to work.
Susan Jackson: No, step aerobics–this thing on the floor and you do different step up step down turn hop jump, blah blah blah
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, you’re an amazing woman. Wonderful that you are sharing your life and writing tips with others. I’d like to know more about when you realized your power of choice in life. How did you meet your husband?
Lucinda E Clarke: Janet first thing OH asked what’s the fishing like? Er…. [embarrassed] what is a DM?
Susan Jackson: I’ m in Florida
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes, I guessed that Susan, but I would be driven to count, just so I could boast about that ha ha. I met Walter Mitty – Jeremy in the book – in a nightclub – yes I know not the done thing in our family, but I do explain it all. The second one at a dinner party, much more salubrious!! I realized the truth when I had gone back to UK where J had legged it telling me there was a contract out on his life – and i managed to stand on my own two feet financially. A friend pointed out I had been supporting the family for years, only I wasn’t aware of it. many women stay put from the fear of not being able to provide for the children. And then I heard that J had a girl friend so…….
— Florida has always seemed a magical place to me.
Susan Jackson: It is, my husband is an artist but my only claim to fame is going to amusement parks, taking trips with my mom–doing the Trans Canadian rail next year with a friend–we already bought our trip for May with extra days in Vancouver!
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, sometimes the rude awakenings are what it takes to shake us out of our known comfort zone. Good for you! BTW, your book sounds like a MUST READ. I’ll definitely order a copy. I’ve had a few friends who worked with Nat’l Geo. All loved what they did.
Lucinda E Clarke: OH has a nephew in Vancouver, and a sister in Toronto and his kids and grandchildren all in OZ, so very scattered. I like to think they are there because they want to be and not cos I scared them off!!
Susan Jackson: A great site to visit is Natural Florida –fantastic pictures of Florida by professional and amateurs (like me)
Lucinda E Clarke: You have to have a passion for media work as the hours are sh*t, the locations can be hell, and you need to really bond with your crew. Upset them and you find you have fuzzy shots when you get into the studio. I was not involved but one person really upset the film crew and they took terrible shots of her, and put it in the finished production. I’ll look up that sight. I didn’t think it was all Miami vice and swampy crocodiles
Susan Jackson: I have to share this photo of the Everglades by Frank Delargy
Lucinda E Clarke: wow! That is amazing. did you take that?
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, you mentioned a group for creative sorts from Africa. Have you ever come across a group of creative sorts who lived in the Middle East? My Nat’l Geo contacts mainly worked in the Middle East and I’d love to be in touch with them again. How did you find the group you refer to?
Lucinda E Clarke: I wouldn’t say they are creative, just ex Africans. I was told about them in Torrevieja in real life I mean, not on the Internet. We also have quite a few ex-middle east people living around here and they get together once a week for a drink. Mainly from Quatar. We put a notice in the newspaper about the get togethers, they are very casual.
Cherry Gregory: Hello again Lucinda, just got back from visiting my mum and am now catching up on the thread. And I so understand what you say about the need to escape into fantasy when life gets too tough as a child. It is something I always did too. Writing seems a natural progression.
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, would love to see some of your photos. Did you put photos in your book?
Lucinda E Clarke: yes, and I remember thinking that the Enid Blyton stories I was addicted to must be very easy to write.
Cherry Gregory: Yes, me too! I imagined myself as a grown up, writing the same sorts of stories!
Frankie Knight: Me too! Maybe troubled childhhoods do start creativity?
Lucinda E Clarke: No I didn’t. I’ll try and add a couple of photos from the shoots though. It was the final breaking point in a 23 year marriage, before he ran back to UK, my ex disposed of all our family photos. so i have very few left.
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, how sad! The war in Cyprus left me photo-less. It’s painful!
Lucinda E Clarke: Maybe they do Frankie. You are so aware of other people’s moods and how your behavior might set them off that you observe very closely. i also believe it raises your sensitivity levels.
–The worst things to lose are your life and your photos. Pretty much everything else can be replaced.
Susan Joyce: Must be cocktail time in Europe. Champagne? Brandy for Frankie? Happy to serve some.
–First a toast to our Sunday Star. Lucinda!
Lucinda E Clarke: one pic, the other one has not come down. A clinic where they were teaching the women to breast feed! Today many think it is modern to use bottles.
Susan Joyce: Frankie, here’s your brandy.
Lucinda E Clarke: Thank you Susan. I take 50/50 tonic water and lychee juice. Can you find that? I’ll look for another photo. Don’t know why I didn’t think of that before.
Susan Joyce: Cheers to all! Great thread Lucinda!
Susan Jackson: Teaching women to breast feed? I thought it came natural,
Lucinda E Clarke: Little TB patients, sadly they will never leave hospital. but they were so cheerful.
Susan Joyce: Wow! Great photo Lucinda!
Susan Jackson: Really nice photo
Lucinda E Clarke: thanks for the drink! Breast feeding is sort of natural, though some babies are tricky but many women see that the done thing is to use bottles and they put all sorts of wrong things in them and don’t wash them properly.
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Nancy McBride: Just got a long call from an old friend from book club who’d moved into old folks housing too far away for her to be active in our group… her daughter died last year, and, of course, she mourns her heavily. She is quite depressed… The interesting bit is that she was cleaning out a box of her daughter’s things and discovered a journal her daughter kept of how she developed song lyrics (she was a musician), and their evolution as her life evolved. There were even CDs with her songs with lyrics never heard before…earlier renditions… She had no idea of this aspect of her daughter’s life—just that she wrote and played music—a folk singer…
I encouraged her to ask her other daughter to help her publish this journal as a memoir, perhaps connecting it with a narrative by my friend of Judy’s sickness’ timeline!
It made me think of my brothers. I found myself observing them a lot at my mother’s recent Memorial Celebration. I know them from our shared growing up, as uncles to my girls, as cohorts dealing with Mother’s last years, etc. but I do not know them as fathers or husbands or race car drivers or recording producers or maintenance workers or executives or grandparents, etc.
Cherry Gregory: Great photo, Lucinda!
Susan Jackson: Probably happens in every country
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Susan Joyce: Lucinda, here’s yours … 50/50 tonic water and lychee juice. Cheers!
Lucinda E Clarke: made a programme on street kids. Nancy we don’t think of the older generation as anything other than how they appear to us ie father, aunt etc. that was an really exciting find.
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, wow! A picture is worth a thousand words.
Cherry Gregory: I had problems breast feeding my daughter as my own milk was not good enough for her and although she was feeding, she was weakening because not nutritious enough. I had to supplement my breast milk with bottled feeds.
Lucinda E Clarke: I had problems too, that’s why Kylie got sick in Nairobi. the nurse reckoned my milk had curdled in the heat! lot’s of people do find it tough.
Cherry Gregory: Lucinda, I can so identify with your title (of WOE) because that’s exactly how I felt in my family. It wasn’t with my parents, they were both kind people, but they were incredibly weak. The whole household was dominated by my maternal grandmother who wanted to be centre of attention (especially my mother’s attention) all the time. She could be fun one minute and then turn on you the next. You had to be prepared for anything. It’s taken me many years to get over that feeling and still when I’m stressed, it comes back to haunt me. But writing helps!
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes writing does help. mind I followed advice from some book which said “write to your mother/father and tell them how they hurt you.” Yeah right, so like an idiot i did. Mother photocopied it, sent it to my kids and ex showed all the neighbours and pronounced my psychotic and finally wrote me out of her will. That bit of writing did not work!! I thought i was being VERY clever with the title as I googled books called Walking on Eggshells and there were a few dozen of those, so I had to be different to help Google find me. That’s a tip people might like to think about. I also did that when choosing a pen name.
Susan Jackson: So sad about street kids, must have been very hard on you to do that one
Lucinda E Clarke: you know there are hundreds of thousands of us out there who did not grow up like “Little House on the Prairie.” In fact when you’re down you need to avoid the Hallmark channel like the plague! And Disney should be sued for false advertising!!!
Janet Givens: Nancy, what a fascinating find for your friend. A real gift. And I love how your mind works. You’ve got me thinking anew of my sons as professionals, as husbands and fathers. Hmmm.
Nancy McBride: Janet Givens, I propose that we visit each other. Perhaps lunch in Keene or something.
Michelle Ingel: Lucinda, how did your children and family react to Egshells? Did you tell them about it? If not are you hoping they will come upon it? How did you/will you react if they accuse you of “exaggerating”?
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes the street kids was tough, but they survive and form their own family groups. But the biggest problem is they sniff glue and so their life expectancy is not great.
Nancy McBride: Or EGGagerating? Egg shells, get it? Sigh.
Janet Givens: Lucinda, I’ve been working on an essay on choosing a Mother’s Day card. Same idea. “Thank you for always being there for me” just doesn’t do it. Not sure how wide spread Mothers Day is. Early May. We don’t have Women’s Day in the US. Pity
Susan Jackson: Cherry Gregory, Lucinda E Clarke, me and others–hopefully we all overcame, were strong enough and raised our kids differently!!
Susan Joyce: So sad about the street kids. Lucinda, I grew up with “Father knows best.” Somehow it never rang true for me. I knew at a very young age that I needed to find my own truth.
Nancy McBride: Really devastating, the street kids… I am constantly amazed how some find a way to play ball with sticks and a stone… but the glue-sniffing.. no way out…
Lucinda E Clarke: Michelle, I had shown my daughters an early mss of WOE but they were not interested. So I didn’t tell them about it, and I did not link any of my marketing pages or advertise it with mutual friends. But they did find out, and they were furious [among 3 million or more amazon books, can you believe it!]. I went back and re-read it and I wasn’t mean to them. My younger who is studying psychology said there was no such thing as PD’s and my mother had been wonderful – a total lie they said awful things about her and they hardly knew her. We had been partly estranged before and it is ongoing. it’s heartbreaking but I can’t talk to them they don’t listen. So I must accept that. They seem very much like my mum. and it is hereditary. They were worried about Daddy getting hurt. I thought s*d Daddy! I’m not sure if he knows about it or not. he sees himself as a knight in shining armour and I’m happy to let him believe that. still love him, but could never, ever live with him again. Last I heard he had gone native in the Scottish highlands!! I did wait until both my mum and ex mum in law had passed on before I published though. Only fair.
–Janet I know what you mean the difficulty in choosing a card, so many are just so slushy!!!
–actually buying a card for your ex’s birthday is also tricky!
Susan Jackson: I was actually raised by a great aunt and uncle (my biological mom is not mean) but picking Mother’s Day card is horrible– especially as she didn’t raise me or come into my life until I was in my 20’s-have I ever told her how. I grew up–no–I had enough problems dealing with it especially when I found out I was adopted(the year after I went thru the windshield of a car and had a conclusion) about age 13 and she had 4 kids after me and I didn’t want to hurt them as they didn’t know about me until they were in college.
Lucinda E Clarke: Susan that is some story. I’m beginning to think that the percentage of dysfunctional families is higher than anyone can imagine. they seem to do it better in the animal world don’t they? Unless National Geographic are telling big fat lies!
Susan Jackson: Such a small amount–I was told I was just like my Uncle who killed himself after the war and I was beaten everyday. My Great Aunt told me if she didn’t know why–I would–she was just to old to have a kid around–50’s when she adopted me–my biological mom didn’t marry my dad.
Cherry Gregory: You’re right, Susan. The best you can do is to be aware of the effect the upbringing has had on you and to try to not let it spread down to the next generation. God, I tried so hard to be there for my daughter and to raise her to feel confident and able to stand up for herself etc. I made some mistakes (maybe I praised her too much?!!!) but with my husband’s help I think we raised Charlotte to be a lot stronger and happier than I ever was at her age. You just have to try your best with what you have, I guess.
Michelle Ingel: You have guts Lucinda! (in reference to your last answer).
Janet Givens: Lucinda, I’m smiling at your account of the letter you wrote to your mother. It does make a good story. But the purpose of the exercise is for the writer, not the writee. Somehow, the second part of the usual directive got lost: (2) Then, throw it away. (or burn it). Oh my! Yes of course everyone got pissed. No one wants to hear stuff we aren’t ready to hear. I’m so sorry that happened.
Lucinda E Clarke: yes Cherry and maybe I fell over backwards with mine and went too far, trying to be more of a friend than a parent, but it failed in the end. But I think they are happy and that is a good thing. They certainly have lots and lots of money to spend if you read my earlier post.
Rosalie Lupcho: Lucinda, you have such a lovely sweet face -.
Lucinda E Clarke: Michelle I have been so blessed. My mother taught me to observe, to listed, to evaluate. And from one family member, though I have yet to identify them, i will admit to having a sense of humour, that can get you though anything.
–Now Rosalie we will have to disagree on this point. I know I look absolutely stunning at 500 yards in deep twilight if the observer is also wearing dark glasses. I took that selfie in desperation last night when Victoria dropped it she wanted a pic for today. That was the 597th attempt !!
Rosalie Lupcho: You are too hard on yourself; Its not necessarily the features, but the look in your eyes that comes through, and yes you are totally lovely!!
–Life’s experiences show in character and liveliness!!
Lucinda E Clarke: OOOh thank you. If only I could cut that out of the screen and frame it for my wall!
–Thank you again!!!
–These pop ups keep appearing over this box, so if I have missed any questions please forgive me. They may be in other threads not sure.
Susan Jackson: Thanks for spending the day with us!!
Lucinda E Clarke: I have really enjoyed it. Not often I have the opportunity to indulge a whole day on the lap top chatting! And my conscience did not bother me FB’ing for longer than I should do other things like cleaning the house ha ha.
Rosalie Lupcho: Are you writing another book??
Susan Jackson: I did that yesterday so I would have today free!
Dodie Shea: Hello Lucinda. I’m afraid I was away without internet all weekend. I will be going back and reading everything from today. Just wanted to say I got your book last week and will be reading it soon! Hope you had a fun day!
Lucinda E Clarke: I didn’t do it at all susan!! Yes Rosalie. I am hoping to publish my second book in a couple of weeks, but it is not a memoir, just an adventure story called Amie about a girl who is taken to Africa and has a torrid time. Book 3 is about half way through, another memoir about filming in South Africa and that will be a lot more fun, no angst! except there were some sad stories of course. That, right now is called Book 3 LOL.
Lucinda E Clarke:Yes I did Dodie, there are such interesting and lovely people out there. And thank you so much for buying my book.
Rosalie Lupcho: Oh good, I’ll look forward to reading them!!! I’m addicted to WLM authors!!!
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, which writing flows easier for you—memoir or fiction? Why?
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes, i’ve become addicted as well. not read a murder mystery, or spy novel or thriller for weeks. I think it’s julie who keeps posting re new books and I keep downloading them.
Susan Jackson: Memoirs are better than those novels because most of the time you can’t believe this is real life!
Lucinda E Clarke: GGGr I’ve lost the question, but I think it was what did I find easier to write, memoir or fiction? Well memoir, as it is true from my point of view ha ha, and i don’t have to think of a plot etc. I mean Amie got totally out of control and just as i was about to wrap up, she decided to go back to Africa and nothing I would say [like I’m fed up writing about you] would change her mind. so, 15,000 words later it was a final wrap.
–Yes if it was fiction you wouldn’t believe it!
Rosalie Lupcho: Lucinda, thank you for your time today! I think I can speak for others, “We love getting to know you!”
Lucinda E Clarke: That has worked both ways! we all have so much in common and we all seem to be nice as well LOL
Susan Joyce: Thanks for your answer Lucinda! 15,000 words later? Fun!
–Lucinda, is your husband also the creative sort?
Lucinda E Clarke: well not really I’d had enough but she was just stroppy by this stage. But I don;t want to give too much away. I think she was trying to get her own back after what I put her through LOL
–My ex was, creative with the truth, with reality etc!! He paints now i believe. My OH is very down to earth a total opposite. He has a hard time when I am away in thr clouds but he is such a big help as he is my best critic. He doesn’t read my monthly column until it’s in print, but he will proof read for me.
Nancy McBride: Good balance, then. Practical sort, as many are.
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes, but not too hands on. It’s mend one thing break two. Whoops, mustn’t let him see this! He is a dear though, but not soppy if you know what i mean.
Nancy McBride: There’s only room for one soppy one per household, i think…
Lucinda E Clarke: no, to be fair let’s make that mend two things break one.
Nancy McBride: Guilt.
Lucinda E Clarke: yes, big time!
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, do you like to cook? One of my favorite parts of travel in being introduced to new foods and at home I often try the recipes.
Lucinda E Clarke: Susan I have been known to ruin a Mary Baker cake mix with no problem at all! Now retired, the OH and I have a pact, one month on and one month off. I’m just not very good in the kitchen, and you should see the size of mine, the galley on the boat was larger. OK I can do it if I’m pushed. but some of the food I came across in rural Africa I have no desire to replicate. we turned up to one shoot to see them boiling cow heads in a large pot. I nearly threw up as I knew it is rude to refuse food and drink!
Susan Jackson: Oops, I fibbed, I have to iron clothes for work tomorrow–that is what I get for loving cotton!
Lucinda E Clarke: It;s the only stuff to wear in a hot climate.
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, tell me more about your life on a boat. I know about boat galleys. Had one on the yacht when crossing the Indian Ocean. Not fun to try cooking in monsoon gales. How long were you on a boat? What size?
Fran Macilvey: What a lovely thread! Lots of fun + food and drinks. I see Brad Pitt popped in for a moment too! Wow, this is such a happenin’ place! I hope you are having a great day, Lucinda E Clarke, I have WOE on my kindle for some summer reading…. Looking forward to it! xxx
Lucinda E Clarke: We were anchored out in Durban Bay, so not on the walk on. I was told we had 10 anchors but I never quite believed that. It was either heaven or hell. When it was rough then we bobbed around like a pea on a drum and twice we could not get back to the boat as it was too rough for the small ferry or if my dinghy outboard would not start. Sunbird was 43 foot long, 13 foot wide, made of concrete and had twin hulls. She was painted bright red! I ironed using a small flat iron which i put on an asbestos mat over the gas ring on the cooker. The fridge was only as good as a cool box so I had to buy in frequently. Our power came from a wind generator, and I had it wired up to a battery and when that showed less than 12 volts, everything had to be switched off! the best part was the admiring waves from the tourists taking trips round the bay, but little did they know I might be up at 3.am in the pouring rain re-streaming the dinghy [taking the rope from the front to the back of the boat] as the wind had changed and it was bashing the hell out of the hull. we were on it for 14 months in total and only took out trip across the bay, when we had asked the girls to lash stuff down and they missed the fruit bowl on the saloon table and it flew off and plastered the inside walls with oranges, apples and bananas. Oh and every week i had to take the ferry to the dock and fill up the water barrels and then pump them down into the tanks, leaving me knackered.
–That;s great Fran, but sadly you know the ending I survived!! Seriously, thank you for buying. All my other books will be fun.
Susan Joyce: What year was this?
Lucinda E Clarke: Ah see the cooking bit Susan. I had a nice little gas stove on gimbles and we even managed a chocolate cake once. This was in 1992 to 1993. we had a neat little gadget for toast, like a large pair of square flat tongs.
–Luckily Brad Pitt turned up on his own without Angelina and their brood. But they were probably hiding in the bushes on the other side of the beach!
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, living on a boat sounds so exciting. Been there, done that. Glad I did but never again.
–Lucinda, how did you convince your husband to do the one month on and another off with cooking. My OH cooks two meals a week. But I would starve if I counted on his cooking for one month.
Susan Jackson: My husband cooked to catch me then conveniently forgot how and he is retired while I still work! Oh well, my fault I am sure.
Lucinda E Clarke: OH is a far better cook than me. Imagine trying to write as you prepare supper? You may have seen that I grab any odd moment. we used to week and week about – other one washes up and clears away. But OH says I cheat as I buy in lots of stuff and cook 15 meals all in one go and then freeze them. We also take it in turns to drive the car, while we are sharing one.
Frankie Knight: Every time I think of a question, someone else has asked it! I’ve really enjoyed this. What has come to light, quite strongly, is that a number of us suffered from abusive childhoods. Interesting!
Lucinda E Clarke: When i met OH in 1996, I said that retirement did not mean cooking, cleaning, washing, shopping scrubbing etc for only one of us – and this was way before we retired. He is great we do most stuff together like that, also for the holiday rental we look after for a friend.
–now if I was really clever Frankie, I would answer your question before you even asked it ha ha.
–I am looking in amazement at a banner at the side of my page asking me to like Heinz tomato ketchup. Whatever next!!!
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, it’s dinnertime in Spain. What is your OH serving you tonight?
Lucinda E Clarke: I’ve just come in from the terrace after having a braai [bar-be-q] and I am also in Spain. We chomped while looking at the Med at the bottom of the valley – magic!
Susan Jackson: I just have my friends on the right side of my screen and tells me wether they are on or not
Lucinda E Clarke: I had chicken and salad and he cooked AND washed up tonight as I was busy. No prizes for guessing which i would rather do.
Susan Joyce: LOL!
Janet Givens: I’m so glad we could keep you busy
Lucinda E Clarke: Looking back Frankie i see you mention several with unhappy childhoods. I wish the media / movies etc would be more realistic. A LOT of families have problems. But in our culture we tend to hide it behind closed doors.
–i also have on line people at the side, it’s all very cluttered.
Susan Jackson: It has been great getting to know you, I have to get your book also as it sounds like a great read and can’t wait for your 3rd book.
Lucinda E Clarke: Thank you Susan. I’ve kept the price really low as well! hint, the price of a cup of coffee?
Susan Jackson: Yep, the price of a soda at 7/11
Lucinda E Clarke: I’ve heard of that chain. Do they stay open all night?
Susan Jackson: When they first started it was 7am to 11 pm but now a lot of them stay open 24/7
Lucinda E Clarke: I was amazed the first time OH’s brother took us to a large supermarket at 2am! we have two places in our small town boasting open 24 hours. One of them closed for siesta and then again at 9pm. Lost in translation possibly?
Susan Jackson: Used to feel safe going to the market when I couldn’t sleep at 3am but when the unemployment rate is so high that isn’t a good idea!
Lucinda E Clarke: where are you again Susan? I must admit here in Spain i do feel safe, In SA we had armed response with 3 panic buttons in the house, bouganvilia over the walls, and a tracker device on the car. you never stopped at red traffic lights at night if you could help it. When OH went away on a fishing trip, I moved in with a friend!
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, Uruguay still feels safe for me. At least in our small town.
Susan Jackson: Tampa, Florida
Lucinda E Clarke: Rural areas tend to be better, but in SA a lot of farmers are being murdered.
Lucinda E Clarke: Sorry Susan, I’ve got it now, your husband is an artist right? I am getting a bit confused. i met a lot of people today. it takes me a while
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, no wonder you don’t feel safe. How sad!
–Lucinda, we are two Susan’s on line—Susan Joyce and Susan Jackson and we’re both married to artists.
Lucinda E Clarke: Now I do. we often forget to lock the front door at night and leave the car open, a bit too careless!
Susan Jackson: That is horrible–one of the things. I miss about living in the US is not getting all the news from Europe.
Lucinda E Clarke: That helps a lot ha ha! So Susan Jackson is in Uraguay, and the other Susan is in Florida right?
Susan Joyce: Susan Joyce lives in Uruguay and Susan Jackson in FL.
Susan Jackson: Nope Joyce is in Uruguay
Sue Clamp: The other way round, Lucinda.
–Too many Susans in this group!
Susan Jackson: Thank heavens Sue clamp is not a J
Lucinda E Clarke: I get so cross that so many countries only comment on the news very close to home. OMG another Susan? I’ll never get it straight! At Grammar school we had 4 Susan’s in our class out of 15 girls!
Sue Clamp: And just to add a little confusion, my partner is a former art teacher/potter!
Lucinda E Clarke: Even now i try and tune in to russia TV, China TV and CNN and BBC and Africa today to learn what is going on. Of course I forget it instantly.
–So to confuse me further, Sue Clamp, where do you live?
Sue Clamp: I’m in the UK with a base in Germany and family in Spain.
Susan Jackson: Well, I’m not leaving
Sue Clamp: I know what you mean about news. We’ve been following BBC, RT and Al Jazeera to try and keep informed on a more global level.
–Wouldn’t want you to, Susan!
Lucinda E Clarke: And don’t they tell different stories? France 24 and Euronews both come from France so they are similar, but Al Jazeera seems quite balanced/
Sue Clamp: All very different! Both the Iraq/Syria situation and Ukraine are a major worry right now and I don’t feel the BBC is covering them adequately, especially Ukraine.
Susan Jackson: I started watching Al Jazerra when we lived In Turkey–I thought they were like the old news cast from my childhood–telling the real story
–Ukraine has pretty much fallen off the story line over here–of course we had a hurricane to worry about.
–ISIS is big
Lucinda E Clarke: World headlines on BBC runs to little old lady bursts inot tears after being insulted by shop manager.
Sue Clamp: You have to watch more than one news channel in order to try and see through the propaganda. There’s too much of that going on.
–ISIS is a big worry.
Susan Jackson: In Turkey we could get news and TV from several different countries
–But life doesn’t seem so good in Turkey right now so we aren’t going back–hubby lived there about15 yrs and me about 10
Lucinda E Clarke: I agree with both comments. But sometimes I feel like a one wolf crying in the wilderness. Asked to give a talk at out local U3A I focused on propaganda, as I practiced it through some of the films we made, in the hope they might just realized they were being totally brainwashed.
Sue Clamp: You have to watch RT to see what awful things the Ukrainian army are doing to the citizens of East Ukraine right now. Villages are being destroyed and many killed, including children. You have to ask yourself why this isn’t headline news on the BBC!
Lucinda E Clarke: Only been in turkey for a day and loved the souk! My OH’s brother’s just been there but in holiday, at a resort and so divorced from the real country. there is SUCH a difference in living somewhere and going on holiday.
—And I heard yesterday that Mugabe has forcibly taken all the farms away from white farmers with no compensation at all. Did we hear it on the news? No.
Sue Clamp: I think many people naively believe that the BBC is free of propaganda.
Lucinda E Clarke: Do you find though that most people really don’t want to know?
Cherry Gregory: I agree about the news coverage. I listen to radio 4 a lot, but sometimes I end up screaming at the radio for more thorough discussion and debate… sometimes.the listeners are treated like imbeciles who aren’t able to follow anything complicated or thought provoking.
Sue Clamp: I’m surprised that Mugabe is still able to retain power at his age!
–I think you’re right, Lucinda. A lot of people are more interested in the culture of celebrity than real news.
Lucinda E Clarke: He’s 90! as for dumbing down Cherry did you see the pic on my page, label inside kids shirt says ‘remove child before washing?’
Susan Jackson: I though he kicked the whites out years ago, Turkey used to be fantastic, we loved it there–lived in Izmir for several years and Adana for several–difference is NYC to rural Arkansas
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes to celebrity stuff. Made myself unpopular when I mentioned that many of them are actually a pain to work with. there was dead silence and I went outside for a cigarette!
Susan Jackson: See,what honesty gets you, will you never learn–hahahaha
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, people don’t want to know what’s really happening. If they knew they would have to do something about it. I thought the US and BBC were telling the truth on world news until my Cyprus War adventure in 1974. It’s all government propaganda.
Lucinda E Clarke: Susan [covers everyone!!!] there are still a fw white left in Zim, there was someone on this post this morning who still lives in Zim.
Susan Joyce: Always has been.
Lucinda E Clarke: I never comment on US politics on FB as i don’t know enough, but many comments suggest that not everything runs smoothly there either.
Lucinda E Clarke:I don’t think the BBC lies, but it omits enough to tell the story as they want.
Susan Jackson: Yep, Susan Joyce, that is what my husband said–you and I talked about that after I read your book and the fact my husband was the next island over to you!
Lucinda E Clarke: But unless you were there, people will just refuse to believe that their national news broadcaster is telling anything less than the full truth.
Susan Joyce: Susan Jackson, I really appreciated hearing from you on that one with thoughts from your husband. Being there, sitting in the middle of bombs falling, I knew BBC and others were lying. And doing so to let Turkey win.
Cherry Gregory: And the BBC force feed us with a lot of celebrity “news” too so that the important issues are watered down and quickly passed over. I really do despair of our celebrity culture. The Rolf Harris case should be a warning to us!
Susan Jackson: I was so excited when. I read Susan Joyce book and could talk to my husband about it as we had never really talked much about it.
Lucinda E Clarke: What year are we talking about?
Susan Joyce: 1974!
Lucinda E Clarke: apparently in Australia now they have just heard about Rolf Harris and are busy dismantling all his celeb stuff over there.
Sue Clamp: The BBC lie by omission. A recent example is the next-to-no coverage of a very large, but peaceful anti-austerity march through central London a couple of weeks ago. 50,000 people marched from Broadcasting House and STILL the BBC ignored it until there were too many complaints from the public. Even then, all they put on their web site was a 20 second piece of footage of the march without commentary and a couple of lines of text. I know this is only a small example but shows what they are capable of.
Susan Jackson: Every country brainwashes their people–I think anyways
Lucinda E Clarke: yes. I felt such an idiot when I first went overseas and realized how other countries felt about and remembered events. EG, in France, ‘why did the British desert us at Dunkirk?@ What, are they talking about our glorious strategic retreat?
Susan Jackson: Gosh, I have to plug in–down to 37%
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes brainwashing by country – now that’s an idea for a story no?
–I went on battery on the terrace, not back on mains.
Susan Jackson: I am brining up my computer
Lucinda E Clarke: Ah, you were on your ipad / tablet/
Janet Givens: George Orwell wrote of this
Tanya Stevens: Hello Lucinda sorry late in today, busy day avoiding the rain here in spain that does not fall mainly on the plain!. I hope your day as been good, Your book is on my to read list, so I cannot comment on that yet.
Sue Clamp: Janet, is your middle name Susan?
Lucinda E Clarke: Hi Tanya.
— Let;s keep it simple and call everyone Susan!
Janet Givens: Not that I’m aware of, Sue Clamp. Louise last time I read over my drivers license. Need I ask “why?”
Sue Clamp: The year I was born, Susan was the most common name given to female babies.
Susan Jackson: 1951
Janet Givens: What year was that? Wait, let me guess. Early 50s?
Sue Clamp: Janet, it’s just that there has been a profusion of Susans on the thread which caused a little confusion. Not sure we’ll allow anyone in who isn’t called Susan
Lucinda E Clarke: it had been popular for some time.
Janet Givens: Ah. I was three years earlier. That explains it.
Sue Clamp: 1954
Lucinda E Clarke: Same as me Janet.
Janet Givens: Oh oh. My college roommate was a Susan. Would that get me Susan points?
Susan Jackson: Yep on the IPad getting a hot leg–now on computer–wow–everything is so BIG!!
Sue Clamp: David was the most common name for boys.
Susan Jackson: OK, where did Susan Joyce go–not giving your birth year?
Cherry Gregory: Am I allowed in? My best friend at school was called Susan.
Sue Clamp: As you have such a strong connection to a Susan, Janet, we’ll let you in.
Susan Jackson: Of course–it isn’t a Susan club just Susan confusing
Sue Clamp: Yep, that’s proof too, Cherry.
Lucinda E Clarke: it’s going to take me months to get everyone sorted out. How long has this group been going?
Janet Givens: That works for me, Cherry. Wondering where Nancy McBride and Janet Hughes are ???
Susan Jackson: 6 months?
Susan Joyce: On that fun note, I’m out of here. Time to walk dogs in Uruguay. Lucinda, great getting to know you today. Hope you’ve enjoyed the Spotlight as much as I have. Best of luck with all you exciting writing projects. Look forward to reading your books. Please let Cherry in. She had a friend named Susan once. LOL!
Sue Clamp: I think we started last September time or thereabouts.
Susan Jackson: We had a big party the first month that lasted all weekend–that is why we still have food and Roberto and Brad hanging around.
Lucinda E Clarke: Cheers Susan. What time in Uraguay?
Janet Givens: WLM is less than a year old, I think. But not by much. I’m off again. Time to finish the weeding.
Sue Clamp: And we have the best wine cellar on Facebook!
Lucinda E Clarke: i can believe it!
Susan Jackson: GOSH Susan Joyce, you look great for your age–hehehehe–go ahead–don’t tell us
— I forgot how to do poop
–yes but what do you use–separate it so it doesn’t come up please
Tanya Stevens: Mmm so that is what you do in your spare time!
Lucinda E Clarke: how do you find emoticons on FB?
Sue Clamp: then the word poop followed by a second :
–You use a combination of characters on the keyboard. FB recognises them as emoticons. I’ll find a link to a page that explains them. Back in a moment!
Susan Jackson: Don’t know and don’t know how Janet Hughes does such great food!!
Tanya Stevens: LOL
Susan Jackson: Hooray
Sue Clamp: Here’s a list, Lucinda: http://www.fbsmileys.com
Tanya Stevens: I joined this group to educate myself in the ways of memoir writing and so far I have learnt how to type
Lucinda E Clarke: Well that one works. Ha had to try it out, but nothing happens till you press enter!
Tanya Stevens: ,(“)
Lucinda E Clarke: ?
Susan Jackson: :!]
–hmmm goofed the robot up
–Love the shark–perfect for Florida
–OK–sorry Lucinda E Clarke. we do tend to get carried away
Lucinda E Clarke: I’ve been cutting and pasting the link into a docex.
Susan Jackson: What time is it where you are? It is 4:36 on the east coast of US
–whatever a docex is :l] my robot isn’t working
Sue Clamp: 9:36 ish in the UK. 10:36 ish in Spain.
Lucinda E Clarke: it is 22.38 in spain. Docex is a word document in Microsoft word 7
Sue Clamp: I think there’s a stray e.
Susan Jackson: You must be ready to go to bed–it is up to you to cut us off!!
Lucinda E Clarke: Probably, my typos are quite famous. Ah, an extra E.
Sue Clamp: Yes, Lucinda. Do feel free to say goodnight when you’ve had enough – not trying to get rid of you, just don’t want you to feel obliged to keep going if you’re tired.
Lucinda E Clarke: OK. Just realized it has been 12 and a half hours! wow!
Sue Clamp: I hope you’ve enjoyed your day in the spotlight! It’s been a really interesting fred and you’ve done brilliantly.
Susan Jackson: It was really fun!! Later Sue Clamp and Lucinda E Clarke
Jo Howe Holloway: Hi Lucinda, my apologies for my absence – been a very long, weird, complicated day; I looked in earlier and see you’ve had a lot of convo going on so sneaked out again. lol! Just on my way back to bed but wanted to apologise for my non-interaction…. x
Susan Jackson: And we haven’t scared you away
Lucinda E Clarke: No problems Jo. I’d like to add that Jo also worked for SABC in Jhb. Night night Jo. i am just about to sign off too.
Jo Howe Holloway: Night night!
Lucinda E Clarke: Thanks everyone for a fabulous day. I’ve really enjoyed it and met some great people. thank you so much for inviting me. I really appreciate it.
Sue Clamp: Goodnight, Lucinda, and thank you for a wonderful and diverse conversation from propaganda to !
Lucinda E Clarke: Hambe Gahle everyone.
Susan Jackson: Hahahahaha :0
Lucinda E Clarke: My pleasure.
Cherry Gregory: Thanks for a wonderful thread, Lucinda. Goodnight for now…I look forward to reading more of your Walking Over Eggshells tonight.
Susan Joyce: Goodnight Lucinda! Thanks again for your time today. Great Fred!
Julie Haigh: What an amazing lady and a wonderful Sunday Spotlight. Thank you so much Lucinda, I can’t wait to read your book.
Nancy McBride: Bye all Easterners… Nighty-nite!
Susan Joyce: BTW, SJ from Uruguay was born in 1945 earth time. However the galaxy she hails from produces earth types capable of living longer and looking younger. Thanks Lucinda E Clarke!
Victoria Twead: Oh my!!!!!!! Been out most of the day, just popped back and this Fred has grown to 469? Lucinda E Clarke you are an awesome lady, and thanks so much for sitting in our Sunday Spotlight today! When you have a moment, please choose a couple of winners from the Fred.
the following day …
Woofie Wotsit: Bummer.. missed the party yet again *sigh*. Apologies Lucinda, but I am catching up with all the comments
Janet Givens: Ok, I’ve been meaning to ask. Victoria Twead, you just used “the Fred.” I know what you mean from the context. But, where did the term originate? Anyone?
Sue Clamp: It’s a ‘mispronunciation’ of the word thread and the way that some people in London and the South East of England, in particular, might say it. How it started in WLM as our standard way of writing it has been lost in the mists of my memory. Maybe someone else can recall or is patient enough to do a search.
Woofie Wotsit: Well, FRED means something else in the Army…
Tony James Slater: Very interesting stuff! Just read through the end of this, as our internet isn’t good enough to load it all! I got a notification mentioning my house-sitting, couldn’t find it on the thread but anyone wanting any details or advice etc just let me know, eh :0)
Charlotte Smith: So sorry I couldn’t join you yesterday Lucinda – visitors kept me away from Facebook. Your book is on my ever growing list and I’ll look forward to reading it.
Lucinda E Clarke: Just on my way out, so in a rush, but I want to thank you all so much for a fabulous day yesterday. I really enjoyed it and OH took over all the cooking and washing up too, an extra bonus So I have to choose two winners! Oh dear. well sorry folks it will have to wait till later today as I am out to lunch as well, but early evening on GMT I’ll let everyone know. Have a nail biting day ha ha
Susan Jackson: Biting my nails down to the quick.
Lucinda E Clarke: So, i’ve logged on after a very, very long Spanish lunch and there is no one to ask about choosing a winner from yesterday. How can I do that! you wee all so great. So I’ll just wait a bit until either Victoria or Alan is online and they may be able to help me. Hope I don’t fall asleep, long lunches are SO exhausting!
Susan Joyce: Easy. Pick two members who you enjoyed chatting with yesterday. Post it here and Victoria will see the post and send them ecopies of your book.
Jo Howe Holloway: Or draw names from a hat??
–Maybe pick several of your favourites and then draw from those?
Lucinda E Clarke: Not too helpful Susan as I enjoyed chatting to everyone Yes Jo, I thought of that, but over 400+ exchanges I’ll have to do a lot of scrolling to find everyone!
–I did think about the lady who was on line from Zimbabwe as they are having a torrid time and my book might cheer her up? But now I can’t put a name to her.
–This is an easy way to make enemies ha ha!!
Jo Howe Holloway: Good idea! You might have to trawl to find her again, but it’ll be worth it.
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes, now to find out where it all is!
Michelle Ingel: I think, Valerie Robson is the name you are looking for (Zimbabwe lady).
Julie Haigh: Lucinda- I think the lady from Zimbabwe who you are talking about is Valerie Robson
Jo Howe Holloway: There you go! A worthy recipient who will make you no enemies.
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes thank you both, found her. Now for the other one, well not Susan Jackson as she has won a prize today am I right?
–All you all sitting on the edge of your seats? — No i didn’t think so
Julie Haigh: Yes, Susan won a prize today and already picked your book for her choice
Lucinda E Clarke: Oh wow! well she certainly doesn’t need two does she? ha ha One for each hand?
Jo Howe Holloway: You should trawl through, even just skim, until something else jogs your memory, someone with a particular tug when you talked to her.
Lucinda E Clarke: well there was one lady who said really nice things about me, but I think she already has the book. I’ll look back.
Jo Howe Holloway: I would try and make it someone in a worthy situation, as you did for Valerie … rather than someone who said nice things about you. LOLOL!!
–Cos if that’s what it takes, I can do LISTS of nice things about you. Hehehe!
–Seriously though, do you remember someone maybe who has a link, like someone who also runs a terrible riding school (!) or a horse rescue centre, or something like that, something that links in to the book?
Valerie Robson: Julie Haigh – I just saw a reference about the lady from Zimbabwe… my small mobile will not let me go back to see previous comments! Only last two… so I missed what was said… xxx
Julie Haigh: Well-we might have to keep you in suspense just a minute……………..
Jo Howe Holloway: Haha! I did wonder whether discussing winners by name on here wasn’t a bit obvious. lol!
Julie Haigh: LucindaValerie Robson has just popped in at the mention of her name-do you want to do the honours and put her out of her suspense because she can’t see all the messages on her phone.
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes Julie! Hi Valerie, I have chosen you as one of the winners from yesterday’s SS.
Julie Haigh: Lucinda, tag Valerie so she knows she’s been picked
Lucinda E Clarke: How do I do that/
Susan Joyce: Congratulations Valerie Robson! You’re a winner of Walking Over Eggshells.
Valerie Robson: Yayeee, that is very exciting and I am doing the happy dance in the dark, as the power is off again… xxxxxx thank you so much…
Susan Joyce: Lucinda, tag by putting her name in your answer. She knows now.
Julie Haigh: It’s ok Lucinda,Valerie has seen that she’s a winner-Congratulations Valerie!
Lucinda E Clarke: Ok. I hope you enjoy it Valerie and I would send you a candle too if I could! Thanks for joining in the chat, it was great to meet you.
Jo Howe Holloway: Congratulations, Valerie Robson!
Victoria Twead: Okayyyyy… So Valerie Robson, is one, and the other?
Valerie Robson: Kisses to all of you and specially Lucinda… thanks many.. xxx
Lucinda E Clarke: Now help me here when you mentioned Valerie it came up in blue, mine didn’t why?
Jo Howe Holloway: That’s how you tag someone. When you start to type the name of someone on the list, you’ll see a little box appear with that person’s full name. Click on it, and it will tag in your message.
Julie Haigh: And when you tag someone, they get a notification to let them know you have mentioned them so they know to look.
–Ok-who’s your second winner Lucinda?
Lucinda E Clarke: Victoria Twead right, I click on the big blue banner! Done it. a new learning curve every day .I thought people were too lazy to type the name and just clicked the box and the surname comes up as well and that seemed less friendly. Silly me!!! OK, I chose another possible five names but they all mentioned they had the book. So, I’m not sure who is on line, and I honestly so enjoyed talking to you ALL, so the first person to reply, who has not got a copy, gets it [but not you Jo, as you read it years ago :(] sorry.
Julie Haigh: Right come on-first in 1,2,3, GO-who’s it going to be?
Jo Howe Holloway: Ha ha!! NO, I don’t need one, and beside, I didn’t join in the session, so I’m defs not on the list. Glad you learned to tag! You CAN also go inside the little blue tag box and delete the surname, keeping just the first name Lucinda … but for some reason when I type your name it doesn’t come up at all. Weird.
Tanya Stevens: me me me
Lucinda E Clarke: Tanya Stevens Congratulations. I hope you enjoy the read and an honest review after? I hope everyone thinks that was fair?
Julie Haigh: Well done Tanya Stevens! Looks like you are first in and you’ve just got yourself a copy of Lucinda’s book!-ENJOY!
Tanya Stevens: Actually I jumped the gun so I will donate my win back because I have already brought it!
Valerie Robson: Well done Tanya… xxx
Jo Howe Holloway: This is beginning to sound like Africa. LOLOL!
Julie Haigh: Really? Right -NEXT-1 2 3 GO GO GO!
Tanya Stevens: Tanya leaves the group with tail between legs
Valerie Robson: What did I miss there…? xxx
Lucinda E Clarke: Forgiven Tanya, how could I not? Thank you for buying it.
— Ii seems Valerie Robson that names that v
–names that came to mind Valerie Robson all had the book, so I said first one to reply and Tanya came back and she had it too ha ha!!
— I want to say a big thank you top Alan and Victoria for giving me SS, nit for the promotion part, but for giving me the opportunity to meet some great people and get to know them. Thanks!
–Valerie Robson I have just sent you a friend request, I think i should ha ha
Valerie Robson: I will pm you in a while about that, thanks Lucinda… xxx
Lucinda E Clarke: thank you. Will look out for it.
Julie Haigh: Still waiting for someone to jump in to win the second copy-perhaps some who chatted to you in the spotlight are offline at the moment and will see and jump in when they come online-so COME ON-first to say ME wins a copy of Lucinda’s book!
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes Julie, and i have resisted the temptation to look and see who in on line to make it fair!
Susan Joyce: Great to get to know you as well, Lucinda E Clarke! Can I nominate Michelle Ingel? She was an interesting participating member.
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes I am happy with that, but, I’ll scroll back, I think she said she had it. Give me a couple of moments.
Michelle Ingel: Thank you Susan but I bought it a couple of weeks ago.
Lucinda E Clarke: Susan, she has already got it too!
Lucinda E Clarke: Not quite with you????
Julie Haigh: Well, I realise it’s tough picking a winner Lucinda-but it’s not often, when we have a Sunday Spotlight, that so many people have already bought the featured author’s book-so it’s great that your book is so popular!
Lucinda E Clarke: Yes, I feel very humble. And if I had time to check out Susan’s emoticons I would find a suitable one. Perhaps imagine another pic of the puppy above
Valerie Robson: Just had a quick look and you had over 540 comments… no wonder my little phone was freaking out! I hd to give it a boost on the inverter as the battery ran out, and just in time to see my name! What fun tonight for me xxx
Lucinda E Clarke: I am so glad Valerie as I can sympathize with you no electricity and difficult supplies of everyday stuff at times. not long before we left durban we were on load shedding of 3 hours every day. So is 500+ a lot for a SS? This si the first one I have been aware of as I am quite a new member?
Sue Clamp: That’s a HUGE fred, Lucinda!
Lucinda E Clarke: Me and my big mouth!
Julie Haigh: Most certainly is HUGE Lucinda!
—And-Sunday Spotlight…….it is still going on and it is Monday!
Valerie Robson: Heheheheeeeeha…. xxx
Sue Clamp: I hope you’re not implying Lucinda has a huge mouth! Lol!
Lucinda E Clarke: I shall get inot big trouble, you won’t tell Victoria will you?
Julie Haigh: Ha ha-no a HUGE thread!
Lucinda E Clarke: As long as it’s not around my neck
Julie Haigh: Get into trouble? Far from it Lucinda-this is what we love-authors who have so much of interest to say and can talk with everyone so easily!
Sue Clamp: Don’t worry, Lucinda. Victoria’s very happy about HUGE freds!
Julie Haigh: You are a relatively new member Lucinda-but you’d never know it-it seems like you’ve been here ages already-you fit in just great!
Lucinda E Clarke: Thank you all. I need a bit of cheering up tonight, as the OH has taken possession of a new car for a few days to test drive to see if he wants to buy it. I just know he is going to go for it and believe me everyone, it is truly enormous, you could probably get half the village in it, and this is Spain where the roads are 6 inches wide and he expects me to want to drive it as well. I just couldn’t kick up much of a fuss when I saw his cheerful, excited face.
Rosalie Lupcho: Men and their Cars are a life-long love affair.
Lucinda E Clarke: I know Rosalie and I will probably have to give way gracefully, if even to stop him from citing WLM in a divorce case for desertion
Ann Patras: Just be very, VERY careful where he drives it Lucinda. Last week there was a traffic diversion in our town, trouble was they must have run out of pointers so we went off at a tangent somewhere and ended up down a street so narrow I had to fold in my Kangoo’s wing mirrors and it took me 4 shuffles to turn left at a T junction – and I’m reckoned to be a pretty good driver when it comes to getting through tight spots!:-)
Lucinda E Clarke: Tell me about it Ann Patras. we took a shortcut through a village this afternoon, and if anything had been coming the other way – typical Spanish road, no space for two cars, and a very nasty drop into the fields one side and solid stone walls on the other and I just kept thinking, “Get me out of here, this is not even our car – yet!”
— Sue Clamp you are the first person I saw was still on line, so if you don’t have the book it’s yours. In appreciation for the FB emoticons as well
Cherry Gregory: Love all the excitement about the winners! This is a great thread, Lucinda, and believe me, it’s a good sign that it’s so long…it shows how popular you are.
Susan Jackson: I already have the book also–picked on the win for VT’s WLM header change!
Lucinda E Clarke: But Cherry Gregory this is getting just a little embarrassing, as we are almost into Tuesday and we must wrap this! Sue Clamp does your like mean you don’t have it and you would like it?
Sue Clamp: Thanks, Lucinda! I’d love to receive a copy! I hadn’t bought it yet as my to-read list is so long! I hope you don’t mind waiting a while for a review, though. I will get to it eventually as I know only too well how important they are!
Julie Haigh: Yes! We now have a winner! Congratulations Sue Clamp and enjoy your prize read!
–Congratulations Valerie Robson and Sue Clamp!
Lucinda E Clarke: No that’s fine Sue. We can let Julie Haigh got to bed now!! I hope you enjoy it. Well I’m off to bed now, the OH is already there, so I shall have to creep in in the dark, but Hey!!! I have my Paperwhite Kindle, so I’m happy. Night night everyone.
Cherry Gregory: Well done, Valerie and Sue…enjoy your prize. I’m in the middle of it, and it is fantastic!
–And goodnight, Lucinda. Thanks for thread!
Sue Clamp: Thanks again, Lucinda, and thanks again for the really interesting thread!
Lucinda E Clarke: I’m sure I enjoyed it as much as everyone else. Great bunch of people!
Susan Jackson: Lucinda E Clarke, it can’t be that embarrassing, isn’t it great that so many people have your book!!
Susan Joyce: Congratulations to Valerie Robson and Sue Clamp! Lucinda, enjoy your new wheels!
Janet Hughes: Congratulations Valerie and Sue – (hope you’re going to share a bit of the cake)
Alan Parks: This might be our record thread? For a SS anyway
Valerie Robson: Now over 580 comments WOW… And of course, as it’s a magic cake, everyone gets a share, what do you say Sue Clamp? Yummy and thanks all xxx
Victoria Twead: Congrats Valerie Robson and Sue Clamp! Your prize has been sent.
Valerie Robson: Thanks, I see it in my emails, and as I am a klutz with these things will have to get my friend Lana to get the book over to my kindle as per instructions! xxx
Tony James Slater: Hooray! I bought a copy, as I couldn’t resist it.
Frankie Knight: WoooHoo, congratulations, Valerie and Sue!!!