Alan Parks: Good morning members! Today’s Sunday Spotlight featured author is Becca Moore! She will be here today to answer your questions and will choose people at the end of the day to win copies of her ebook! Morning Becca!
Janet Hughes: Hi there Becca, here’s a little something to help get you started… I’ll catch up with you later, have a great day
Cherry Gregory; Hi Becca. What a great idea for a book and of interest to a lot of people. When did you first discover you were bi polar ?
Julie Haigh: Hi Becca, you mention in your book that music really helps you and that it’s a real passion for you-do you mean listening to it or do you play an instrument as well? I’m interested because I’m a musician (Piano, Organ) and I find it really helps to pour all my emotion into my playing if something has happened to upset me.
Dodie Shea: Welcome Becca. Hoping you enjoy today. Where are you from?
Becca Moore: Good Morning Everyone! I feel so honored! Cherry Gregory I believe I have had Bipolar Disorder since I was a child. My parents didn’t believe in seeking out mental health services so it wasn’t until three years ago when I was pregnant with our 7th child that I sought help for myself. Julie Haigh – I used to play the piano as well and that was a huge outlet for me. Now I just listen to whatever music strikes me at the time. Rock is my favorite, how about you? Dodie Shea I am from Northeastern Pennsylvania in the States Where is everyone else from?
Julie Haigh: Becca I love listening to and playing a wide variety of music, rock, pop, classical. Do you think you would get back into playing piano at some point? Say Hi to your husband too! – It’s lovely to hear about couples being together so long in this day and age-did you say 19 years? He sounds amazing. Lucky girl!
Becca Moore: We are now together 21 years He’s amazing and has his own mental diagnosis as well. I will absolutely tell him hello when he gets up. He’s enjoying the last few moments before our kiddos rip into their Easter Baskets.
Victoria Twead: Seven children, Becca Moore? Gosh! What age range are they?
Becca Moore: Good Morning Victoria Twead The ages are 18, 13, 11, 7, 5, 3 and 2
Phil Cowman: Respect to you Becca, Seven Children,well done you…
Becca Moore: Thank you Phil Cowman Do you have any children of your own?
Bambi Flanner: Becca, I’ve read your memoir about your bipolarness, but you have children that are also diagnosed as well?
Becca Moore: That is true Bambi Flanner, my 11 year old has bipolar and my 7 year old has Aspergers, ADHD and possible early childhood onset bipolar. L was diagnosed when she was 8 years old. I find myself to be at an advantage rather than a disadvantage because I can help both of them learn to cope.
Valerie Robson: Happy Easter to you all, specially Becca and family… xxx
Becca Moore: Thank you Valerie Robson Happy Easter to you as well
Victoria Twead: Is bipolarity(?) hereditary?
Bambi Flanner: Becca, I have a 6 year old with autism spectrum disorder. He’s sometimes Aspergers, sometimes full on autism. he moves back and forth.
Janet Hughes: Sorry Becca, I haven’t read your book yet,. I was wondering how you coped when pregnant with all those hormonal changes and not being able to take medication?
Becca Moore: Victoria Twead yes mental illness can be genetic. Most likely my mother was bipolar as was half her family but they would never admit it. Bambi Flanner JP has Aspergers and now that he’s on his meds he’s doing much better.
–Janet Hughes there are medications that are safe to take while pregnant. While some chose not to take medications I chose to take them. I was in a very dark place and needed to get stable fast. I feared for not just my life but for that of my unborn child’s life. I was on medication through the last part of my pregnancy.
Janet Hughes: I used to be a CPN and pregnancy was always a tricky time, especially if the person was on Lithium Carbonate. I’m sorry that you were in a dark place, but delighted that you and your babies were OK. I am uni-polar and well maintained on medication, but I don’t think that I could cope with babies. You’re a remarkable person Becca
Becca Moore: Thank you I wouldn’t be able to cope if it wasn’t for my husband. He’s a tremendous amount of help. My older children also know a lot about my illness (explained in my book) and they are a lot of help for me as well.
Janet Hughes: Family and friends are always The most aspect in anyone’s life, something often overlooked by health care professionals So what inspired you to write your memoir Becca?
Sue Clamp: How early can bipolar be accurately diagnosed in children?
Becca Moore: I wanted to reach out to other parents with Bipolar Disorder. I wanted them to know they weren’t alone and I wanted to give them encouragement. I offer them tips and advice of different things that worked for me through my dark times. My main goal is to let parents know that their illness does not define them, they can define their illness and they are still awesome, effective parents despite the label that has been given to them
–Sue Clamp I believe that depends a lot on the child and the doctor one is working with. Many doctors will not diagnosis a serious mental illness in a child until they are 18. They simply will refer to the illness as a mood disorder.
Susan Joyce: Good morning Becca Moore! Welcome to the Spotlight Sunday Session. I’m reading the thread now and will try and ask an original question in a few.
Becca Moore: Thank you Susan Joyce
Janet Hughes: Forgot to wish you a Happy Easter I bet the Easter Bunny was busy at your house
Becca Moore: Thank you very much! Instead of baskets we spread grass over our dining room table and sprinkled the candy on it. It was so much easier that way lol And the kids didn’t mind one bit!
–Happy Easter to everyone
Sue Clamp: Happy Easter to you too, Becca!
Shirley Ledlie: Hi Becca, hope you are enjoying your day! Hope you got some sleep last night lol
Susan Joyce: Happy Easter to all. Becca, we all get sad and have dark times, from time to time, as life throws us a few hard punches, but without diagnosis how would one know it’s a disorder?
Becca Moore: Thanks Shirley Ledlie I absolutely did! I honestly didn’t think many people would be interested in my book so I slept lol
Shirley Ledlie: 7 children ! Respect. Do you plan to have any more
Julie Freed: Hi Becca Moore – Thanks for being the SS. How long did it take you to write your memoir with all you are juggling?
Becca Moore: Susan Joyce the difference between a dark time and bipolar is the swing in the moods. There are times when I feel invincible, like I can take on the world. I don’t sleep, eat, I have over productivity, racing thoughts and paranoia. Sometimes severe agitation and irritbility. Other times I can’t even get out of bed and become severely suicidal.
–Shirley Ledlie no more children for me. I had my tubes tied after the last baby
Bambi Flanner: What meds? We’re at the meds/no meds point. I’m voting for meds but my husband is worried about over-medication, etc.
Becca Moore: Julie Freed Thank you It took me about three days, I was manic at the time.
–Bambi Flanner there are many, many meds out there that one can try. What works for me may not work for you. I’m on a combination of five different meds right now. Without them I would be non-functional.
Susan Joyce: Becca, as a child did you know your mood swings were extreme and a disorder?
Becca Moore: Susan Joyce yes I actually wrote a book about that as well called “Moorestorms The Storms Of A Bipolar Teen”
Susan Joyce: How did your parents handle your situation?
Becca Moore: My parents ignored my situation. Saw it as a child acting out. Even when I was suicidal they tried to hide it. Neither of them were very supportive of me growing up. My mom has long passed and my father is just now showing interest in what’s going on in my life.
Susan Joyce: Sorry Becca, to hear you had no support growing up. That’s extremely difficult to even imagine. How wonderful to know you now have a very supportive husband and family. I haven’t read your books yet. Sounds like both are important for anyone in these situations. Hormonal imbalances can lead to serious health issues.
Becca Moore: It’s okay! Somehow I powered through, met my husband when I was 15 (wrote a book about that too) and we’ve powered through ever since. I believe if my Mom was here now she would be much more supportive as I’d have the facts to back up my claim. But not even I knew what was going on with me at such a young age.
Susan Joyce: Becca Moore, 15? Tell us about meeting your husband and knowing he was the one.
Julie Freed: Three days – that’s incredible. With BPD are you able to gauge or semi plan your manic times to take advantage of the energy you gain?
Becca Moore: I met Dan is high school. We spent a lot of time together and got to know each other very well. He made me feel important like my feelings mattered. We had a lot of ups and downs mainly because we were both undiagnosed, but at the age of 21 I married him and it was the best decision of my life. He has always stuck by me no matter what.
–Julie Freed no, sadly that is not the case. As much as I wish it were. Being manic feels so much better at times than being depressed. You just can’t count on any mood swing.
Susan Joyce: Becca, feeling understood is so important in any life-partner relationship. That kind of support is priceless. You are blessed to have it. How often do you see your father? Is he an active grandfather with your children?
Becca Moore: I haven’t seen my father in a little over 2 years. We talk periodically on the phone, but not much. He is not an active part in my children’s lives. My children have me, my hubs, their siblings and an Aunt of mine.
Micki Stokoe: Hi, Becca – happy Easter! Does the medication smooth the highs & lows or leave you feeling out of it?
Becca Moore: Again it depends on the medications. I have had some that I absolutely could not take and others that were a God send for me. The ones I am on now are working pretty good. I’m going through the weaning process of coming off one due to sleep issues, but other than that, I’m doing okay.
Micki Stokoe: I’m glad! The support of family & friends is so important. Apart from listening to music, your writing & family commitments, do you have any favourite pastimes?
Becca Moore: I enjoy blogging and running my 2 facebook pages. They are a lot of fun for me. What past times do you enjoy?
Phil Cowman: I have three, two Girls and a Boy, I come from a family of seven 5 Girls and 2 boys, it was crazy growing up, but oh so lovely…what have you got ?
Micki Stokoe: Gardening, cross-stitch, a variety of crafts & I’m heavily involved with Girlguiding & Scouting!
Becca Moore: 4 girls 3 boys. One is 18 and out on his own already. He’s amazing. Has a full time job AND goes to school full time!
Phil Cowman: Of course He is Amazing, he has an Amazing Mum…
Becca Moore: Awe Thanks Phil! I try. He’s had it the roughest out of all the kiddos.
Phil Cowman: What do they say “What doesn’t kill us makes us Stronger”..
Becca Moore: That’s what they say and I took what I was dealt with so I could help others.
Susan Joyce: Becca, do you and your husband belong to any support groups?
Becca Moore: We actually are in the process of starting our own at our local library. It will be calling Bipolar Parenting Workshop. It will focus on the basics of what one must do to maintain stability and ultimately reach recovery. We both have been in therapy for quite some time.
Karen McCann: Becca Moore, I just want to thank you your willingness to share your story and for your thoughtful comments on coping. I’ve learned a lot just from reading this comment thread!
Becca Moore: You are more than welcome Karen McCann. It is education that I believe the community as a whole is in need of. So many do not understand what bipolar really is, or how one struggles with the illness. I want others to know that we aren’t people to be feared, we just want understanding and support.
Shirley Ledlie: Do you wake up and find you are ‘down’ for no reason or does something happen to set it off- do you have any warning? Or does the medication stop the extremes?
Becca Moore: The medication doesn’t always work and it’s times like that that I need to call my doc and get a med tweak. Most times I wake up miserable for no apparent cause, but I do have triggers as well.
Susan Joyce: Becca, sounds like a very important endeavor (at the local library) for you, your family, and your community. I have a friend who is married to someone with Aspergers syndrome. They’ve been married for over 30 years, and she swears she couldn’t handle it without a support system. He can’t have a drop of alcohol. When he drinks he goes ballistic. Is it the mixing with meds?
Becca Moore: Mixing meds and alcohol is a BIG no no for anyone taking medications. Most medication bottles even state that in red. I agree, a support system is extremely important for both parties. I am looking forward to the support group. It will enable me to help more people than I can online.
Susan Joyce: Becca, I’m sure you will be able to help many with your support group. It took me years to come to terms with my negative feeling about my parents, my strict upbringing, and their seemingly lack of understanding me in my teenage years. I’m from a family of eight children and my parents kept having more children for religious reasons. My mother had a total nervous breakdown when she was pregnant with her eighth child. I saw first hand what pressure can do to an exhausted, fragile human. An amazing guided meditation in Germany (when I lived there) helped me forgive them, understand they did their best, and move forward in my life. Will your support group deal with forgiveness?
Shirley Ledlie: Becca I also run a support group (online) for disfigurement. When we get new members they are angry at first then they move to being depressed and suicidal. Then an up and down phase before excepting it. I keep threating to leave because it’s difficult but then a new lady joins and it so relived to of found us it makes it impossible to leave. Do you feel that being involved has a positive or negative effect on you?
–Sorry about typo’s on my phone and cant edit lol
Becca Moore: Susan I don’t think we’ll cover forgiveness in the terms of forgiving those around us more that we need to forgive ourselves. Shirley, being involved helps me tremendously. I know what my triggers are and can most of the time cope with them. Having something to do, giving back to my community is what I want to do the most.
Dodie Shea: I grew up in a family of 5 children. My mother had severe emotional issues. Four of us married and had only 2 children.. another chose not to marry. The genetics are there and we each cope differently. I salute you in being able to cope with a large family.
Becca Moore: I have an awesome doctor, wonderful therapist and amazing husband. Plus explaining my illness to my children instead of hiding has helped as well.
Susan Joyce: Becca, I find forgiving others is my best way to forgive myself for any negative feelings. You’re the expert on what works best in this situation and I’m sure your personal experience over the years will help others as you share with them. Explaining and sharing is key to help other open up and share their feelings. Bless you all.
Becca Moore: Thank you Susan. Many of us have been the ones responsible for broken or severed relationships over the years. We must learn to forgive ourselves for our behavior while we were manic/depressed before we can come to terms with forgiving others for not being there for us.
Cherry Gregory: Thank you for all your answers, Becca. I am so impressed with how wonderfully positive you are and how hard you work to help others. I’ve had episodes of severe depression for over thirty years, but I’ve never felt manic. It is refreshing to learn what it’s like at the other end of the spectrum. Do you feel that the early stages of the mania help you be creative?
Becca Moore: Absolutely Cherry Gregory! That is when I seem to write the best or have the best book ideas. Depression is very hard on me, I can’t think or do anything. It’s like being in the darkest hole one can imagine. But there is always a way out. And I always remind myself, I’ve been through it before I can get through it again.
Susan Joyce: Becca Moore, thanks so much for sharing your time and knowledge. Happy to know you are there for others who need understanding. We’re heading out to lunch, but I will check in and read more when I return. BTW, you asked where people are located. I live in Uruguay, South America.
Becca Moore: Enjoy your lunch! I too will be heading out soon for lunch with family! I shouldn’t be gone more than an hour though.
Cherry Gregory: Becca, I know what you mean about depression. I can spend several weeks hiding behind the sofa in a trance like state. Not good for being creative at all! Yes, we have to remember we’ve been through it before and there is a way out, but at the darkest point it is very difficult to hold onto that. I think in those situations, your support group would be a lifeline. Good on you for setting one up.
Becca Moore: Thank you Cherry Gregory. It is very hard to hold on to it and I think that’s where our support system must come in and help to remind us
Cherry Gregory: Must feel like a hand reaching out in the darkness.
Becca Moore: That it does
Cherry Gregory: What sort of books do you like to read, Becca?
Becca Moore: Surprisingly I’m a huge Stephen King fan! And yourself?
Cherry Gregory: I love historical fiction and since joining this group have read a fair amount of memoirs. Depends on my mood, but I like poetry too.
–And I’m not surprised you like Stephen King! I find that most so called horror movies/ books are tame in comparison to the terror I encounter when very depressed. It toughens one up!
Terry Bryan: My heart goes out to those of you dealing with depression. I did for a bit, then found out I had a bad thyroid…Synthroid cured me, for which I was quite thankful.
Janet Hughes: Hi again Becca, if money and health were not a problem, what would you like to do… the sky’s the limit
Becca Moore: Honestly, I think I’d still be writing. Maybe on a remote island somewhere, but I love to write. I love to help others.
Janet Givens: This is such a fascinating conversation and I wish I were not on my way out. Just wanted to add one thing: I’ve read through the earlier great comments and this one really jumped out at me, from Becca, “Plus explaining my illness to my children instead of hiding has helped as well.” That has certainly been my experience with so many things; that old adage, “secrets make us sick” comes to mind. But getting our “secrets” out there in the light of day and seeing the magic happen. I’m so glad you’ve found a good therapist, Becca. That can sometime be quite the challenge. I’ll try to pop back in in a few hours. Ta
Janet Hughes: Thank you . So who are you taking with you…
Becca Moore: My Hubs of course We never had a honeymoon, this would be nice
Janet Hughes: A honeymoon, sounds lovely… and what else couldn’t you do without ?
Becca Moore: I could do without the kids for a few days, but then someone would have to fly them in to me lol
Janet Hughes: Of course…. plus you’d have a cleaner, a cook, a laundry maid and a nanny…
Becca Moore: Oh now if that isn’t such a dream!
Janet Hughes: And the kids…. plus ice cream of course
Becca Moore: Absolutely! Wouldn’t that be lovely?
Janet Hughes: Anything’s possible in your dreams…
Becca Moore: If we’re going to dream we might as well dream big!
Janet Hughes: Exactly
Linda Kovic-Skow: Hi Becca Moore. What a fascinating thread. Thanks so much for sharing your story. I’m confused about one thing, do you and your husband suffer from Bipolar Disorder? I’m very familiar with this topic. My father (and his mother) suffered from the disease. Fortunately, my brother and I seem to have bypassed it. Boy, I’m sure impressed with your positive attitude.
Becca Moore: Yes both my husband and myself have Bipolar Disorder as do two of our children.
Linda Kovic-Skow: Wow, you do have a story to tell. Take care and all the best to you and your family.
Becca Moore: Thank you so much Linda Kovic-Skow I appreciate it! I was diagnosed first and over the last 3 years everyone has fallen in behind me.
Cherry Gregory: It’s magnificent that you’ve managed to write with all your children. Do you write when the younger children are in bed or do you find time to write at other times?
Becca Moore: I usually write early in the morning and the babies take a good 3 hour nap in the afternoon. That typically gives me about five hours of write time a day.
Cherry Gregory: That’s a good regime. Have you ever thought of writing fiction?
Becca Moore: I have. I actually have an idea, but I haven’t put it to paper yet.
Julie Haigh: Yes, I wanted to know that too Cherry but forgot what I was going to ask! I wondered if you’d thought of turning your hand to fiction
Becca Moore: Maybe next year. I just released my 5th book so I need some time to let the ideas settle a little.
Cherry Gregory: Good luck with your fiction idea! I enjoy writing fiction and find it very therapeutic. I put just about as much of myself in a work of fiction as I would if I was writing my memoir and it has the added bonus of you get to kill people!
Becca Moore: Thank you Cherry Gregory. I chuckled at that a little!
Janet Hughes: Mmmmmmm now there’s an idea *rushes off, pen in hand*
Becca Moore: Do you all write the traditional way with pen and paper or do you use a computer?
Sue Clamp: Wot? You going to kill someone, Janet? I do that too, although I can’t say I enjoy it as much as Cherry seems to! I find it pretty painful!
Janet Hughes: I like to scribble in pen, then organise it on the pluter
Sue Clamp: I use a computer, Becca. I have a program called Scrivener which helps me organise my research in the same place as my writing. That way I don’t lose anything!
Becca Moore: Was just curious. I too use my computer
Janet Hughes: Ooooer Sue, aint u posh
Cherry Gregory: I used to write with pen and paper and still use it to jot a few ideas down, but I use a computer now.
Sue Clamp: Yeah, really posh. Those elves need keeping in order somehow!
Micki Stokoe: Pen & paper,then transfer to the computer as a read through. But I write poetry, not books!
Cherry Gregory: I’m impressed with the cover to your book. Did you design it yourself, Becca?
Susan Joyce: Becca, how many years have you been writing? Did you want to be a writer when you were younger?
Julie Haigh: This has been amazing Becca-hope you’ve enjoyed yourself too-see, we’re a friendly bunch! Very interesting and do start putting your fiction idea down on paper!
Susan Joyce: Becca, do you and your husband do the writing and publishing projects together?
Becca Moore: Sorry for the delay was eating dinner with my family. Cherry Gregory yes I designed the cover with createspace’s help. I just picked my own picture. Susan Joyce, I’ve always wanted to write. I’ve been writing since I was a child, professionally 3 years. And yes my Hubs helps me with most of my projects. He actually co-authored our Moorestorms The Storms Of A Bipolar Marriage.
Susan Joyce: Becca, nice that it’s a team effort.
Becca Moore: It is nice. He’s a huge help for me!
Cherry Gregory: I haven’t read your book yet, Becca, so I don’t know how your co-authorship worked. Did you write separate chapters?
Becca Moore: I wrote half of the book and he wrote the other half showing his side of our marriage.
Susan Joyce: Are any of your children interested in writing or publishing?
Becca Moore: My 11 year old is. She even runs her own blog!
Susan Joyce: What’s her blog about? Please let us know where we can check it out.
Janet Hughes: It’s bed time here in Spain, so I’m off to hit the sack. I’ve loved chatting with you, I hope that you’re not too tired. I’ll catch up with you soon
Cherry Gregory: Writing half each was an interesting way to write…did you learn things about each other you didn’t know before?
Becca Moore: She uses it a lot like a daily journal and encourages others to keep going even when they feel like giving up http://staystrongandalive.wordpress.com/
–You are Beautiful
–Cherry after 21 years there wasn’t much we didn’t know about one another
Susan Joyce: Thanks so much! I will check her blog out. Writing has always been great therapy for me—through rain and shine. A great way to release feelings.
Cherry Gregory: Ha, ha! I see what you mean. Still, it must have been interesting to work in that way with your husband. Is he as keen a writer as you are or does he need some encouragement?
Becca Moore: Oh he needs encouragement. It’s the first time he’ ever written anything like that before. It was a lot of fun but could get stressful at times because I was being picky lol
Cherry Gregory: It’ll be interesting to compare your viewpoints!
Susan Joyce: Becca, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and work with WLM! It’s been great getting to know you. It’s dinner time here now, and since I’m the chef (except for Sunday morning perfect omelets and Friday night pizza), time to get cooking. Wishing you great success with your books and your library support group. Good night! Blessings!
Becca Moore: Good Night Susan! I do believe I am ready to pick my winners!
–How do I go about doing that? Is there a mod I need to contact?
Julie Haigh: Becca, you just say on here who you would like to choose and Victoria Twead will do the rest.
Cherry Gregory: You can PM VictoriaTwead to let her know who you’ve chosen and then she can announce them or you can announce it on this thread and Victoria will sort it out.
Becca Moore: I want to thank you all for your questions! It has been wonderful spending my day with you!
Cherry Gregory: Thank you Becca for sharing your experiences with us. It’s been a really interesting thread and I’ve learnt a lot. Goodnight to you!
Susan Joyce: Becca, let me know and I’ll pass the info on to Victoria. Because of Easter Sunday, she’s probably away.
–I agree with Cherry. Just name the winners and Victoria will sort it out tomorrow.
Becca Moore: Okay! Sounds good to me I want to send a big Congrats to Janet Hughes and Cherry Gregory
Julie Haigh: Well done Janet and Cherry!
Susan Joyce: Yea! Janet Hughes and Cherry Gregory are winners!
Becky Corwin-Adams: Congrats, Janet and Cherry. Sorry I missed it. I was traveling to spend Easter with my family today.
Victoria Twead: Hi, I’m back! Haven’t had time to read through the Fred properly, sorry, but it looks like it was an amazing Sunday Spotlight as usual! Thanks so much for agreeing to do it, Becca Moore, and thanks for your honesty about a difficult subject. Congrats to Janet Hughes and Cherry Gregory. I’ll send you Becca’s book in the morning as I’m on the ipad at the moment.
Terry Bryan: Janet Hughes and Cherry Gregory…enjoy!
Terry Bryan: Thank you, Becca Moore. I expect you helped a lot of people today. That is wonderful.
Becca Moore: Thank you for having me. It was my pleasure to discuss something I am so passionate about .
Micki Stokoe: Thank you, Becca. Congratulations, Cherry & Janet!
Sue Clamp: Great thread, Becca! Thank you! Congratulations to Cherry and Janet!
Cherry Gregory: Thanks so much, Becca! I’m looking forward to reading your book!
Kate Pill: Have loved reading this thread
Shirley Ledlie: Thank you Becca -I can feel your passion. very interesting fred
Janet Hughes: A huge thank you from me, it was a real pleasure getting to know you and your family. I’ll leave you a review just as soon as I’ve read it. *Skips off singing happily…*